Posts by quest81

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Imagine a Company Sells You a Product...

by TTATTelder in

imagine a company sells you a product... you like the product and begin to do more business with them.. then one day this company demands that you never visit any of their competitors for the rest of your life.

they also add that you are never allowed to read a negative customer review about their company or products for the rest of your life.. actually this company threatens you with a humiliating future death if you engage in either of these activities..... how does that sound to you?

sound reasonable?

quest81

Brilliant analogy TE. I might use it in a future conversation with my wife.

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Need to vent: Wife just went in full cult mode, huge fight. she is so brainwashed

by goingthruthemotions in

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out of the blue my wife started to ask me about my feeling about the borg.

i told her i didn't want to talk about it...she persisted.

she already knows how i feel, i told her that my biggest beef is that they use mind control, and yep she went in to how i was an apostate and how she doesn't want to be married to an apostate.

quest81

GTTM: Am sorry this is happening to you and your family.

I have been where you are too not long ago (3 months ago actually). What I realized quickly after a lot of independent reading on cults and high control groups was to avoid direct confrontation and arguments. It's important to be able to identify whether your spouse is her authentic self or in the cult driven mode before responding to sensitive subjects. I advise against using words like 'mind control' or 'cult' (hard I know in the heat of an argument) as they trigger thought stopping techniques in your "still in" wife. When opportunity presents itself, remain calm and make your points sincerely.

If you chose to stop being a JW, do you think you could make things work with your wife and kids if she choose to remain one?

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My Day's Long and Arduous Journey

by compound complex in

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friends

this, my day's long and arduous journey, is winding down as infinite night gracefully descends and takes me into her welcomed embrace.. i have no reason to fear the inevitable, my transition into a higher and more glorious estate than was allowed me upon this beautiful but angst-filled habitation.. what must be borne with calm, with dignity, with rejoicing, has been prepared for me from earliest times.

its accomplishment requires nothing of me .

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quest81

Good to 'see' and 'hear' from you CoCo. Wishing you a speedy recovery.

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Good Netflix shows to watch

by Simon in

in the long winter nights you need some good tv shows to watch while you wait for the eternity between seasons of game of thrones.. we've watched marco polo (pretty good) and have just started watching orange is the new black which is not at all what i imagined (didn't know it was funny!).

house of cards is on the list too as we've heard good things about that.. anyone have any others that are worth seeing?.

quest81

coalize: I watch the US version of Shameless (Showtime). It's outrageously entertaining. The UK version is available on Netflix just queued it thanks to you :)

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Good Netflix shows to watch

by Simon in

in the long winter nights you need some good tv shows to watch while you wait for the eternity between seasons of game of thrones.. we've watched marco polo (pretty good) and have just started watching orange is the new black which is not at all what i imagined (didn't know it was funny!).

house of cards is on the list too as we've heard good things about that.. anyone have any others that are worth seeing?.

quest81

House of Cards is brilliant, I watched all of it in one go when it was released lol

Hell on Wheels is pretty good I think.

Orange is the New Black is good with a dark sort of humor, watched it last winter.

Marco Polo, just started 2 episodes in so far - slow start for me, we'll see how it goes.

Luther, 2 episodes in, liking it so far.

Arrow, like it all caught up.

Sons of Anarchy, pretty good, dark poetry in there, Keith Sutter's storytelling is captivating.

Mad Men, the 50s and 60s must have been great! I enjoy this show.

Boss, in the fashion of House of Cards, good stuff, Kelsy Grammer makes one 'good' bad guy.

About a Boy & The Office (UK & US), when you need a laugh or two.

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Where is Everyone????

by truthlover in

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friends

missing a lot of the oldies and goodies -- is this site so new, no one has signed on yet?

i am confused... but then, i will have to wait and see what happens.. somehow - change is not the best option but we adjust..have most of the users gone to other locations?.

tl.

quest81

Hello guys, was getting the hang of the new site for the last couple of days (many thanks to Simon), while concurrently enjoying the season's offerings :)

Afrikanman: nice picture I love South Africa, great country, great people (most of the time lol).

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Many Member Just Want to Believe

by OnTheWayOut in

if you are/were an active jw, you are now here on jwn so, for whatever your reasons, you woke up to some degree- hopefully a great degree.

so what i am saying may not apply to you.. i know that if i had not already left, i would have stormed out on the day they studied "overlapping generation.

" i am quite confident i couldn't have stayed for such an obvious switcharoo just to make the end seem imminent and try to explain how wts was wrong, but not entirely wrong in the past.. but i had to wonder how that change (or others) didn't cause most jw's to walk out.

quest81

OnTheWayOut: I can relate to your frustration in trying to get TTATT through to your spouse. I am in similar situation as yourself and Nickolas though I have always been an UBM. The hardest part for me is watching the love of my life get guilted, manipulated and give away her ability to think for herself to some delusional men with a God complex. Like you I have a fermenting need to show my spouse that she has been deceived for so long, after reading the requisite material (Hassan et al) I realize now that love, patience and opportunity (to ask questions) are the keywords.

One other thing I am learning to do is to listen, cognitive dissonance is quite the interesting phenomenon, people let out a lot of their subconscious thoughts in things they say when their guard is down - listen to her.

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DirecTV -- why also Roku, Chromecast, etc.?

by FatFreek 2005 in

we already have directv as one of its earliest subscribers (1994).

we have always had their latest dvrs(where we can skip commercials, pause, slo mo, resume, etc), have their premier insurance for all our hardware, and have their basic entertainment package, including movies, sports, family and music channels -- some over 150 channels that include local channels.

no premium channels.. i hear folks talking how they love those set top boxes (sticks, dongles, etc) that don't cost an arm and a leg -- a one time charge -- and can forever stream movies and programs.

quest81

FatFreek2005: If you are looking to cut down on your sat TV bill or simply increase the hub of your entertainment sources, streaming devices are a must have. Not only will they improve content available to you, they also offer flexibility of where to watch desired content. For instance, you can simply plug in a Chromecast dongle into the HDMI port of an older non-smart TV (with no apps) and be ready to watch stuff from Netflix cast from your phone or tablet in your kitchen while you cook. This is definitely cheaper than getting another DirecTV client which you'd have to pay monthly subscriptions for.

That said though, the best content will require subscriptions so I guess you will have to do the math on what you really need. Most TVs and blu-ray players these days come pre-loaded with the most popular apps to stream content (Netflix, Amazon Instant, Hulu, YouTube etc).

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Many Member Just Want to Believe

by OnTheWayOut in

if you are/were an active jw, you are now here on jwn so, for whatever your reasons, you woke up to some degree- hopefully a great degree.

so what i am saying may not apply to you.. i know that if i had not already left, i would have stormed out on the day they studied "overlapping generation.

" i am quite confident i couldn't have stayed for such an obvious switcharoo just to make the end seem imminent and try to explain how wts was wrong, but not entirely wrong in the past.. but i had to wonder how that change (or others) didn't cause most jw's to walk out.

quest81

I have put forward evidence and arguments that are devastating in their clarity and logic but they bounce harmlessly off her faith. While I watch myself grow older in the mirror I have come to accept that I will not get through to the love of my life. Not entirely resignation. There is also the "be careful what you wish for" aspect of things. If I managed to get through and the light went on inside her head the possibility of unintended consequences is considerable. I think she is one of those people who need faith to be happy. If those people lose their faith and for the first time in their lives clearly perceive the oblivion that awaits them it might just be beyond bearing. Perhaps terrifying. It's a corollary to the canard that faith is good because it gives one hope.

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What the Watchtower teaches, how it controls the thoughts of its adherents, is a variation on a common theme. A particularly insidious variation, to be sure, but a matter only of degree. Some of the most ardent critics of the Watchtower, including many of those frequenting this forum, steadfastly cling to a less strident variation of the very same faith espoused by the Watchtower.

Nickolas: That's deep, but I hear you.

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From 1 to 10, how do you rate the value of the Internet in your awakening?

by Hidden-Window in

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friends

as we all know, the internet is a real game-changer in allowing us to know the truth about the watch tower and its history.

i always had doubts and it was the internet that presented me with the ever-growing number of individuals who were going through a similar struggle.. i give the internet a 9 in my awakening.

what about you?.

quest81

Solid 10.

All the things I had had reservations about and found to be 'off' were unearthed for me from the internet. All the books I needed to learn history and insight I found or heard about online.

Those that figured out TTATT before the internet or without it, I salute you!