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  Interview with an Apostate: Downtowner

  by Downtowner in

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  tell us a little about yourself and your family.i grew up in the organization and baptized at age 10 years 11 months.

  i lost my father to cancer and nearly lost my mom (thank goodness i didn't) to an illness both in 1999, i became inactive in 2000, and came out of the closet in 2001.. were you a born in or a convert?i was born in.

  are your parents / family jws?

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  MissFit

  Welcome, thank you for sharing your story.  

  You will find plenty of support here.

  I am looking forward to more of your posts.

  Miss.Fit
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  The Pastor of my Old Church Tried to Re-Convert Me Yesterday

  by cofty in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.

  we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.

  they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.

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  MissFit

  Hi Cofty,

  May I humbly suggest you start another thread with the updated reasons and rebuttal points?  You could link this thread to the new one or visa versa if someone wants to read the entire discussion.

  This thread is so long now that new posters might be too intimidated to wade through all the pages.  And I am afraid they will miss out on the summary.

  This thread has really helped me look at things in a different way.  I hope others will have an opportunity to benifet from it, if only to give them a different perspective. 

  Thank you for your consideration. 

  Miss.Fit
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  1st POST: A romance with a JW

  by myangelface in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am not a jw ...however i began having bible studies (i d call them watchtower studies).

  i was beginning to get lured in and brainwashed into accepting the religion as the true religion...but something inside of me told me there was something odd.

  some time passes and i was invited to a meeting and i accepted.

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  MissFit

  Billy brought up a very important piece:

  The shunning.  A little fling with you is not harmless to him.  Getting involved with you could totally destroy life as he knows it.  He is probably trying to decide if you are worth it.

  In his mind, he is risking his relationship with his God, his family, and his "friends".

  If he "falls into temptation", he can get shunned. No contact ar all with any of his JW family or friends EVER. 

  Are you serious enough about that young man to be willing to replace all of that?

  If not, leave him alone, he will always blame you for his loss. 

  
  

  
  
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  Tomorrow will be one of the PROUDEST days of my life.

  by nicolaou in

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  2. experiences

  iv'e been posting here a long time but here's something i never shared before .

  i'm still a window cleaner.

  i'm not going to rant at the 'society' because they don't own my anger anymore but my work is certainly a legacy of my cult past.

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  MissFit

  Hey Nick.  Any updates? 
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  Is this a discussion forum or a debating forum , which is it ?

  by smiddy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  do you get confused sometimes whether this site is a discussion forum or a debating forum ?.

  just asking.

  whats your thoughts.. smiddy.

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  MissFit

  I come here for the support.  I like Terry's description of a triage.

  What has helped me was reading other's experiences and realizing I wasn't alone.

  Just knowing others went through the same things, had the same feelings, in different countries even, really helped me.

  I would say this is a support site first. 

  Thank you to Cofty , who correctly noted that some discussions have made a difference.  The EPIC thread comes to mind.  That discussion really helped me analyze the difference between what I thought I knew and what was fact.

  
  
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  Memories. .. share the earliest or most favorite childhood memory

  by MissFit in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my daughter tells me that experts say children tend to have false memories.

  apparently their brain tends to fill things in that may not be totally accurate.. i refuse to believe that my favorite and comforting memory might not be true.

  so here is to fond memories real or not.. the earliest memory i have is being put in a crib at a preschool.

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  MissFit

  Hello all.  Just checking to see if any new ones wanted to share their memories or insites into the things we remember.

  
  
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  one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

  by MissFit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

  i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

  i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

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  MissFit

  Hello all, after the holidays, I have spent some time assessing my emotional freedom.

  This was the first year I put up a tree and decorated it.

  It was more of a celebration of my freedom than of Christmas. I am trying to 

  unchain myself from the taboos and superstitions that were ingrained in me.

  I was not struck by lightning .lol.  I was surprisingly guilt free.

  I did admit to my mom this year that I wasn't going to meetings instead of letting her assume I was.

  Anyone else shed a few more emotional chains lately?

  
  

  
  
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  How did your family react when you made it known that you did not want to be a JW anymore?

  by Yondaime in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  please share your experiences..

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  MissFit

  Welcome Gone and Forgotten..

  Please start an introductory thread so everyone can "meet" you and welcome you.

  You are not alone. Isn't  comforting to know that there are many others who can relate to what you went through, 

  I'm sorry you did not get the support you needed from the elders.  I am glad you were able to move on.

  Miss.Fit
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  JW Broadcasting Party

  by The Searcher in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  just heard of a congregation who has announced a saturday afternoon get-together at an elder's home - to let those who don't have the internet watch the jw tv monthly shows!!!!.

  words fail me..

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  MissFit

  Same at my Congo.  They have scheduled a time a the hall.
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  Poster country flags and privacy

  by Simon in

  1. forum
  2. announcements

  the new forum originally had a little country flag next to each post showing the country that the post was made from based on the geoip encoding (the country the ip address is from).

  before i switched over to the new site someone made an issue about it violating their privacy and i didn't want to complicate and confuse the switchover with policy debate at the same time as technical issues so removed the flags even though i disagreed.. someone has already requested it as a feature and i think it should be added back so i thought it's now time to open the discussion and get everyone's opinions.

  first, the reason i think it should be shown:.

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  MissFit

  Hi Kate,  I also check out posters'  histories when they are giving advice.

  I think it is a wise practice.   I find it gives me a context around their comments.   Also it gives me a chance to get to "know" them.

  I like the idea of a generic flag option for those posters who want to opt out.

  I personally think knowing the country adds a little context.

  Sometimes phrases or words have different meanings or connotations depending on where you are from.

  Miss.Fit