Posts by MissFit

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one last step..Is being mentally out the same as being emotionally out?

by MissFit in

jw
friends

we talk here about the importance of being mentally and physically out to be really free.. what about being emotionally free?.

i realized for me, i had to be emotionally awake first.

i had been yo-young back and forth for years.

MissFit

Hello all, after the holidays, I have spent some time assessing my emotional freedom.

This was the first year I put up a tree and decorated it.

It was more of a celebration of my freedom than of Christmas. I am trying to

unchain myself from the taboos and superstitions that were ingrained in me.

I was not struck by lightning .lol. I was surprisingly guilt free.

I did admit to my mom this year that I wasn't going to meetings instead of letting her assume I was.

Anyone else shed a few more emotional chains lately?

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How did your family react when you made it known that you did not want to be a JW anymore?

by Yondaime in

please share your experiences..

MissFit

Welcome Gone and Forgotten..

Please start an introductory thread so everyone can "meet" you and welcome you.

You are not alone. Isn't comforting to know that there are many others who can relate to what you went through,

I'm sorry you did not get the support you needed from the elders. I am glad you were able to move on.

Miss.Fit

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JW Broadcasting Party

by The Searcher in

just heard of a congregation who has announced a saturday afternoon get-together at an elder's home - to let those who don't have the internet watch the jw tv monthly shows!!!!.

words fail me..

MissFit

Same at my Congo. They have scheduled a time a the hall.

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Poster country flags and privacy

by Simon in

the new forum originally had a little country flag next to each post showing the country that the post was made from based on the geoip encoding (the country the ip address is from).

before i switched over to the new site someone made an issue about it violating their privacy and i didn't want to complicate and confuse the switchover with policy debate at the same time as technical issues so removed the flags even though i disagreed.. someone has already requested it as a feature and i think it should be added back so i thought it's now time to open the discussion and get everyone's opinions.

first, the reason i think it should be shown:.

MissFit

Hi Kate, I also check out posters' histories when they are giving advice.

I think it is a wise practice. I find it gives me a context around their comments. Also it gives me a chance to get to "know" them.

I like the idea of a generic flag option for those posters who want to opt out.

I personally think knowing the country adds a little context.

Sometimes phrases or words have different meanings or connotations depending on where you are from.

Miss.Fit

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Should I even bother telling someone what I think of their parenting . . . .any advice?

by skeeter1 in

the situation: a neighbor's child and mine have played together for 8 years.

her mother is a single parent, and a probable narcissist.

loves designer clothes, bentleys, money, will not date a regular joe or even a rich man who doesn't drive the right car, wear the right clothes, etc.

MissFit

No. What do you think it will acomplish?

It is not your business as long as it doesn't affect your daughter or put her in danger . If you feel the child is in danger you can always inform the authorities.

The daughter is old enough to put her own seatbelt on.

Just my 2 cents.

Miss.Fit

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Watchtower Study today Jan 4 2015 , Fallacious Reasoning (issue Nov 15 2014)

by BluesBrother in

the subject of the study was jesus resurrection .

my post is not about the subject and whether or not that can be believed in.

millions of christians do and it is not my place to debunk religious faith.

MissFit

Great post. Thank you for taking the time to write it. It was concise, respectful and easy to understand.

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Still pointing your Finger when having a Rafter in your eye?

by DocHouse in

yes- everyone has faults and makes mistakes; an organization even more so.. yet, you ignore all the fingers pointing at you.. many here have no faith.

many here go to churches who lie about everything biblical; look at x-mas!.

but at least we know god and christ and try to live up to their name!.

MissFit

Welcome DocHouse please enjoy your visit . If keep your mind and eyes open on your journey here you, will find an interesting experience ahead of you.

You do know that if you told the Elders that you think alot of what the f&ds says is baloney and added on you would be labled an apostate?

Many are here for that same reason. They agree with you. But like you they did not have anyone they could discuss it with safely and respectfully .

You say respectful debates are rare here. I disagree. Check some more threads out with an open mind. Stifle your automatic reflex to defend or counter argue. Just "listen" and stop to really think about the argument you were going to use. Does it really make sense or was it preprogrammed responses you are repeating from the publications or meetings?

The reason these people here are giving you their time to "respectfully debate" you is because many of them were you. They were right where you are now.

They also can pretty much predict what your responses will be because that is what they would have said. The difference is now they know why the responses are not accurate and what the logical fallacies were that prompted them.

They also know that you have to discover it on your own. They can point the way and give you the benifet of their research, but ultimately it is up to you.

They know you have made the first step by coming here and by admitting to recognise the baloney.

Enjoy the freedom here to explore and question.

Remember respect goes both ways.

BTW I am here because I want to cut the baloney out of my diet. But as an active JW I did not have that option.

Here I do. I can openly question and discuss things without fear of being shunned.

RE the dont feed the troll comment: I think some people are too quick to jump on the troll wagon. I appreciate the posters here that give posters the benifet of the doubt.

You dont know how many trolls have turned into critical thinking posters( aka apostates.)

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I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn't...

by Divergent in

i found this article interesting & just wanted to share.

after going through my teenage years trying to be the perfect jw, i realized that trying to live up to the standards imposed on me have been for worse & not for better.

i was feeling miserable, repressed, unfulfilled, with a great lack of self confidence & self esteem.

MissFit

Quote from the artical:"Unfortunately, I can't go back but I can give you this message as a culmination of my experiences: If you want to wait to have sex until marriage make sure it's because you want to. It's your body; it belongs to you, not your church. Your sexuality is nobody's business but yours."

Ditto. I thought that quote was worth repeating.

I will be sharing this with my daughter. I raised her with the JW mindset.

She is not a JW. I think we owe it to our children to make sure they have a balanced anx healthy view of their sexuality.

She is a young adult now. I have been awake for around a year now. This article will be a good conversation starter.

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What if WT will claim, that Jehovah has pulled a "Jonah and Nineveh" on them?

by prologos in

wt seems to be helpless in really dealing with the failed prophecies, pending dates, overlapping groups--.. what if they declare victory, blame jehovah, in that he allowed the nations to come to their senses and not further escalate the use of weaponry, "destroying [life on] the earth"?

in a second fulfillment of .

the "repentant ninevites, disappointed jonah" bible story?

MissFit

Prolog: I think they will just use the same reasoning they always have.

It is a slight variation of the Repentant Ninivites:

"Jehovaha has is own time table and as long as there are honest-hearted ones, he will delay, ( then they quote that one scripture about God not wanting to destroy but wants everyone to attain repentance).

And if we are being impatient because it hasn't happened yet,we are unloving and being selfish (like Jonah) because who knows how many more will discover Jehovahs loving kindness and be saved from the destruction. "

So they aren't saying it won't happen, just that Jehovah isn't quite ready yet.

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The Noble Fir

by Oubliette in

the noble fir.

the fir tree stands silently in the corner of our living room: proud, erect, strong.

even unadorned, it is beautiful.

MissFit

Thank you for that beautiful post. You just discribed my journey too, but more eloquently than I ever could. You really get it. The taste of freedom is so sweet.