FW, Maybe you could ask Elderette how she feels about male headship? She must have seen some inept elders, and knows she could do better than some of the men in the congregation. Not all men are cut out for leadership or public speaking.
Ask her how she feels about being subordinate to a baptized brother who's less experienced--maybe just out of his teens. Or ask her if she minds covering her head if she has to lead a study or Field service group.
Just a thought. Looking forward to the next installment.