Posts by MonkeyPrincess

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How does one forgive ??? PLEASE, I really need your help, PLEASE ???

by run dont walk in

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well, the worst case scenario happened in my life,.

i had a topic awhile back about, have you ever thought about leaving your mate for someone else??.

i never updated as much as i should of ?.

MonkeyPrincess

run, i am so sorry this happend to you, it is a terrible situation, and as much as i wish i had some advice for you, i really dont.
all i know is what i see from the outside looking in..
my sister cheated on her husband, even though he said he forgave her and tried to work on their relationship, he would ultimatly throw it in her face everytime an argument erupted. the problem is that you can try and put it behind you, but it might still always be there in the back of your mind, and you would both be miserable. If you are both willing to work on your relationship, you should seek couseling together, its really the best way to solve your problems by getting them out on the table and facing them. i wish you the best of luck, no one deserves to be put in this situation, just know that its not all your fault.

Hugs to you!!!!!

MP

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"even if it wasn't the truth,i would rather live with it then without it"

by MonkeyPrincess in

"life is so much easier (for me anyways) keeps me sane with all the stuff that goes on in the world,, or maybe thats my passive personality" .

that is the comment my (younger) sister made to me while we were on chat the other day.

i tried to explain to her to do research on the wtbts before she really decided this is what she wanted for her life.

MonkeyPrincess

Thank you all so much for your comments, you dont realize how normal i feel when im here.

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Are you dressing up for Holloween?

by Elsewhere in

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i'm thinking about dressing as martha stewart.

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MonkeyPrincess

Im going to be a black cat, and my 2 year old is going as Batman.. that was his first choice.
I told my husband he had to be Robbin (LMAO!!) but its a no-go!

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"even if it wasn't the truth,i would rather live with it then without it"

by MonkeyPrincess in

"life is so much easier (for me anyways) keeps me sane with all the stuff that goes on in the world,, or maybe thats my passive personality" .

that is the comment my (younger) sister made to me while we were on chat the other day.

i tried to explain to her to do research on the wtbts before she really decided this is what she wanted for her life.

MonkeyPrincess

"life is so much easier (for me anyways) keeps me sane with all the stuff that goes on in the world,, or maybe thats my passive personality"

That is the comment my (younger) sister made to me while we were on chat the other day. I tried to explain to her to do research on the WTBTS before she really decided this is what she wanted for her life. Im so hurt because i am losing my family one by one, its happening like a movie in slow motion. Would have it been better if it just all happend really sudden and fast, i dont know.

By the way, the whole conversation came up when we were talking about our other sister and her being df'd just like me. Apparently my dad told my sister that she is not welcome to be in their lives anymore, or in their home, and unless she is on her death bed, not to contact them. How hurtful that is! I know i am next to get the axe, im ready for it, i think!

Is this what most witnesses think, and the reason they stay, i wonder.. its not something i would consider, especially if i had doubts. What do you think?

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What's the first worldly thing you did when you left?

by Nosferatu in

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after you left the jws, what was the first worldly thing you did?

the day after my last meeting, i got really really drunk.

MonkeyPrincess

I got a tattoo.

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When & How Did You Get The JW ULTIMATUM?

by Corvin in

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flyinhighnow's recent post about the nephew and his ultimatum email got me to thinking .

when and how did you get the ultimatum (to come back to jehovah or lose my love and friendship/association) and from whom?.

corvin

MonkeyPrincess

I get the ultimatum weekly, not kidding either. My parents and younger sister are still very strong jw's and tell me that they will not be able to speak to me any longer unless i make attempts to be reinstated. Then they will call me a week later and ask me to come over and bring my son (the ONLY grandchild and nephew). I realize they only want me over so they can see their grandson, but its nice when i get to go over and its like old times. But, a few days after the visit, i get the call again with a blow out of arguments about how i am a terrible person, playing with my son's life.. yada yada yada, you get the picture. Anyhow, thats what my life is like these days, well for the past year to tell you the truth, i am actually looking forward to my parents finally telling me that im not welcome over anymore so that i dont have to deal with these head games. We just had our blow out on wednesday, so it looks like i will be invited over again next week, yup.. looking forward to that!

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How Many People Are Less Stressed Since Leaving The Witnesses?

by minimus in

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do you feel better----emotionally and mentally since stopping meetings and living under the rules of the witnesses?

i've heard reports of better physical and mental health since persons have left the organization.

MonkeyPrincess

Interesting that you posed this question, being that my husband and i were just discussing how much better i am, mentally and emotionally, not to mention physically. It seems that all aspects of my life were falling apart. I was suffering from Migrains, i still have some but not as many, they dropped from 3 times a week to 3 times a month, which is huge according to my nuerologist. I had terrible anxiety attacks, some that put me in the hospital, as soon as i left and got couseling, they stopped, unless i talk to my parents and they bring up going back to meetings, then i will have one. Im not depressed anymore, and my husband (who is "worldly") notices a big change in me and my personality. I love being free!!!!

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JW VIDEO New Edit

by Corvin in

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complete video ready now.. jehovah's witness 'neath the tower of fear.

corvin

MonkeyPrincess

That was intense, indeed.

Very well done, those pictures are all to familiar.

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I had a chance to share some of the truth about the lie with my sister!

by seeitallclearlynow in

you may remember i had started a thread about those of you who had been pioneers before discovering the truth about the watchtower.

i was concerned about helping my 25-year pioneer sister to see the true light, as it were.

well, she's been visiting for about a week and a half, and i finally got to talk to her about a few things.... .

MonkeyPrincess

wow seeitall, that is very exciting. even though you didnt get a chance to bring up everything, you at least got to plant the seed, now she will go looking and find it out the rest for herself. thanks for sharing, it gives me hope that i will get my sisters out too somehow. keep us updated, ok..

monkeyprincess

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When does it get better?

by MonkeyPrincess in

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when will the guilty feeling of leaving the org go away?

i am feeling at my lowest point right now, and its terrible.

this after visiting my parents and feeling that awkward tension building between us.

MonkeyPrincess

I dont know if you all realize what a tremendous help you all are, it really feels so good to have this support, so i thank you all so very much. I did get CoC just last week and read a page here and there when i get a chance or when my little one naps, so far its left me amazed and with my mouth wide open in suprise, of course sickend at the same time. My husband did suggest that i do something to occupy my time, so i got a job at Macys 2 nights a week, just a couple of hours so im not home and feeling depressed. Its been wonderful, i have met lots of great people, some co-workers i consider friends now, and i get a great discount! hehe. I know this will take time, and i realize that no one really has the perfect answer on how to deal with this, but i do have a wonderful therapist who helped me see the truth about the org in the first place, so to tell you the truth i guess i am on the right path and doing ok. I suppose last night was one of those nights where i felt like curling up and dying cause nothing makes sense to me anymore, i am confused and lost at times, but at the same time my life seems simple and free now, yet i grieve for my family and friends still lost in the org. Its a big ball of different emotions, i know most of you know those feelings. Thanks again for your thoughts, it really did lift my spirit. I will be ok, and im doing the right thing!!!!