well, the worst case scenario happened in my life,
i had a topic awhile back about, have you ever thought about leaving your mate for someone else??
I never updated as much as I should of ?
but to make a long story short, I declined on the opportunity,
But I recently found out, that last month while my wife was in Ontario, that she had sex with someone else while she was there. this is the first time she has ever done this, she says she was very unhappy in our relationship, and one thing led to another. I am totally crushed. I want to forgive her, but I don't know how.
WHY, does it take a serious situation, for people to realize how wonderful their mate is ???
the last 60 days of my life have been a nightmare, basically, when she came back I knew something just wasn't right, I had a women's intuition (for lack of a better phrase), so I bought a phone recorder (absolutely awesome by the way, $150, if you want to find out about what your mate or kids are up to, I would strongly suggest it, as bad as that may sound), it turns on when the phone is picked up, and even when the phone starts to ring for incoming calls, basically any reaction to the phone line starts the recorder. So after a couple weeks I caught a converstaion with her and him, saying what happened, it was devastating, I would NOT wish this on my Worst enemy,(maybe a JW, maybe, no not even), when I confronted her, she denied it adamantly, then when I played the conversation, she died.
I just dont know what to do, i never drank much, now I drink everyday, i'm coming apart, guess I never realized how much i loved her, she is very sorry for what happened, and if she could take it back she would, but this is tough, where does one begin??? she is genuinely sorry.
We are trying to pick up the pieces, but I don't know, if its fixable.Her sister, where she was staying said, "well, its your fault, you deserved it", I always hated her family.
All I can say to you all reading this, hold your wife/girlfriend/husband/boyfriend tonight and tell them how much you love them.
lol everyone, I need help.