For active believing JWs: How would you feel if:

by Lady Lee 60 Replies latest members private

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  Lady Lee

  You discovered that your spouse had spent years lying to you?

  They had an affair and had been lying about it.

  How would you feel if all the time they were married to you they had a lover on the side?

  If they spent an enormous amount of time and energy in covering their tracks so that you never found out about the lover?

  That they took your money and spent it on gifts for the lover?

  How would you feel if once you found out about it they turned around and blamed you?

  Or said you were wrong and just misunderstood something even though you have pictures to prove it?

  How would you feel if in spite of all the years together and all the plans to live together forever they turned around and said you were the one to cause the trouble and tossed you out of the house?

  I could go on and on but I'm sure you get the point.

  This is how I felt when I found out about the WTS and the lies they told us. I was devastated.

  I didn't want to believe that all the love I had been told was mine turned out to be false. All the protection and support I was told was mine was all false. That all my friends and even family refused to discuss his affair and didn't believe me and stopped talking to me. That everyone really believed I was the one in the wrong.

  And because I didn't want to believe it I started out to prove it was wrong. No my husband didn't commit adultery. But the WTS did. The UN, Mexico/Malawi, altered texts, saying one thing and doing another, and so many more things.

  And all the time saying I didn't know what I saw or read.

  That is how so many of us here feel about being lied to and betrayed by the WTS.

  What about you?

  How would you feel if you discovered the WTS had really lied and been hiding it for decades?
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  upside/down

  Brilliant....!

  u/d
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  Finally-Free

  How would you feel if you discovered the WTS had really lied and been hiding it for decades?

  I know how I felt. I was a believer but, because of a child abuse scandal that was getting quite a bit of media attention, I turned to the internet to do a bit of research. A little research turned in to a lot, and within a couple of weeks I became physically ill from the stress I went through as a result of my findings. I had been cheated on in the past, but the pain of that was much easier to cope with than the turmoil I went through when I learned the truth about the watchtower.

  That's why I don't try to deprogram my mother, as my sisters would like me to do. She's old and frail, and I'm sure it would kill her to find out the truth about the watchtower.

  W
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  AK - Jeff

  LL -

  Well put - that is it in a nutshell for me!

  Jeff
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  defd

  I would be hurt
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  Doubtfully Yours

  When I was given a hint about the deceit in 1995, I went around and confirmed my suspicion.

  Once confirmed, I proceeded to liberate myself mentally/emotionally from the WBTS.

  Too bad so many of my relatives are caught up in it. Therefore, I can't take the ultimate step. I just love my family too much.

  I've decided to make a sacrifice and attend the random meeting plus turn in the 1 or 2 hrs service time each month. All in the name of keeping the lines of communication open with my relatives.

  DY
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  TD

  Why use the conditional, "would be," Defd?

  There is no question that they (The leaders and policy makers of The Christian Congregation Of Jehovah's Witnesses ) have lied and continue to lie both in print and in speech.
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  Lady Lee

  defd

  I would be hurt

  What stops you from being hurt by all the things you have read here? And perhaps read elsewhere on the internet?
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  AK - Jeff

  I would be hurt

  That is a start; In my case I was crushed, immobilized in fear of what all that meant, devasted. Everything I thought was true and trustworthy turned out to be a scam and a sham! My whole life was the 'Truth', I was heart and soul. Then I had to learn to think and live all over again. Betrayal and Divorce is a pretty good analogy, but it is lacking in the level of pain that I felt when my world was turned inside/out and upside/down all at once. Perhaps a deeper analogy would be seeing a mushroom cloud over the city that everything you cherish is at. It was more like that for me. Jeff
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  defd

  What stops you from being hurt by all the things you have read here? And perhaps read elsewhere on the internet?

  Because honestly those things do not bother me. I have learned SO much from serving Jehovah. The FDS has done more good to me than bad. It is the "FRIENDS who cause me heartache not the FDS.