Defd has said he will leave and it caused me reflect on how he was treated. Are we happy with the way we responded when he tried to defend his faith? This and comments about my own attitude have caused me to review my motive for the posts I make.
When I first started posting here I was thoughtful and sincere as were most of the posters back then. My aim was to help Jehovah’s Witnesses that visited the sight and leave them impressed by how reasonable and balanced their ex-brothers and sisters were. This would encourage them to return and find the help they needed.
Like all things in life, forums evolve and constantly change we change with them and can be affected by the style of other posters. Sometimes a desire to be noticed affects our judgment when making comments.
Sometimes it is easy to forget how far we have travelled since we were Jehovah’s Witnesses. Could we be kinder to those who are still mixed up and struggling to come to terms with their doubts about the Watchtower Society? They are not personally responsible for the hurt we have felt as a result of the Watchtower Society. Projecting anger or personal feelings onto someone for our own benefit will help neither them nor us.
In future, when I make respond to someone’s comments, I intend to stop and ask - what am I trying to achieve by commenting and how will it affect the person it is intended for?
What is your motive when you post or reply?
Are you happy with the way you come across and the effect it has on others?
Have you thought of trying a different style or approach?