EVERYTHING YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW (page 4)

Soledad

You see, one person can't do ALL the changing and fitting in and adapting without losing who/what they are. She is unwilling to make changes.

that's exactly right. You know what your marriage is called Terry? Over.

luna2

Your wife sounds like a very talented, interesting person, Terry. It's too bad she's withdrawn from the game due to disappointment that life didn't turn out the way she expected.

I've seen something like this a couple of times with couples I've known....and, yeah, you can't force somebody to engage, they have to want it. Such a frustrating situation.

Sometimes (okay, most of the time) I'm really glad I'm not married.

Gill

Move on, Terry.

It may sound simplistic, but if you're so unhappy....

Move out, move on and you'll be surprised that real love may come around again.

A marriage is no marriage without intimacy. Life's too short.

Nathan Natas

For Talesin et al:

From AllAboutVision.com

Eye Floaters and Spots

By Judith Lee and Gretchyn Bailey;
reviewed by Dr. Vance Thompson

You may sometimes see small specks or clouds moving in your field of vision. They are called floaters. You can often see them when looking at a plain background, like a blank wall or blue sky. Floaters are actually tiny clumps of gel or cells inside the vitreous, the clear jelly-like fluid that fills the inside of your eye.

Floaters may look like specks, strands, webs or other shapes. Actually, what you are seeing are the shadows of floaters cast on the retina, the light-sensitive part of the eye.

Eye Floaters and Spots Symptoms and Signs

If a spot or shadowy shape passes in front of your field of vision or to the side, you are seeing a floater. Because they are inside your eye, they move with your eyes when you try to see them. You may also see flashes of light. These flashes occur more often in older people as the vitreous humor thickens and tugs on the light-sensitive retina. They may be a warning sign of a detached retina. Flashes also occur after a blow to the head, often called "seeing stars."

Eye floaters and spots are usually harmless, but flashes of light may indicate a problem. If you're suddenly seeing spots, floaters or flashes, get an eye exam to make sure nothing's wrong.

Some people experience flashes of light that appear as jagged lines or "heat waves" in both eyes, often lasting 10-20 minutes. These types of flashes are usually caused by a spasm of blood vessels in the brain, which is called a migraine. If a headache follows the flashes, it is called a migraine headache. However, jagged lines or "heat waves" can occur without a headache. In this case, the light flashes are called an ophthalmic migraine, or a migraine without a headache.

What Causes Eye Floaters and Spots?

For most people, floaters occur as they grow older. The vitreous humor thickens and clumps as we age, and floaters result from the clumped vitreous gel. Sometimes pregnant women see spots caused by little bits of protein trapped within the eye. Eye injury or breakdown of the vitreous humor may also cause spots and floaters.

When people reach middle age, the vitreous gel may start to thicken or shrink, forming clumps or strands inside the eye. The vitreous gel pulls away from the back wall of the eye, causing a posterior vitreous detachment. It is a common cause of floaters, and it is more common for people who:

are nearsighted;
have undergone cataract operations;
have had YAG laser surgery of the eye;
have had inflammation inside the eye.

Treatment for Spots and Floaters

Most spots and eye floaters are merely annoying but harmless when they temporarily enter the field of vision, and many fade over time. People sometimes are interested in surgery to remove floaters, but doctors are willing to perform such surgery only in rare instances.

If you suddenly see new floaters, or eye floaters accompanied by flashes of light or peripheral vision loss, it could indicate serious conditions such as diabetic retinopathy; vascular abnormalities such as retinal hemorrhages or carotid artery disease, or the beginning of a retinal detachment. The retina can tear if the shrinking vitreous gel pulls away from the wall of the eye. This sometimes causes a small amount of bleeding in the eye that may appear as new floaters. You should see your eye doctor immediately.

talesin

Hey, thanks NN. I've wondered about that since I got my floater about 9 years ago. Never got a good explanation from my doc, either. I wonder what other lovely surprises aging will hold -- no, wait, I don't wanna know! hehehe

tal

Terry

This thread was originally intended for one person to ASK a question (any question about anything) and another knowledgable person to answer it.

The floater question is a good example of this.

Question asked.

Answer given.

How about more questions?

EvilForce

Splenda....

What's this new sweetner crap called Splenda....it gives me a headache....I drank it my accident. Any chemists on here that can tell me how it's made?

JW83

Rod P: great advice! We can all do with some relationship counselling at times - it's good to get an outsider's view.

My 2 cents: Being a domestic goddess sux. That is my personal opinion, but I bet it's shared by many other women. I am busy at uni & with a toddler, & the thought of cleaning drives me craaaazy! I hate it! Even when I was at home all day every day with baby I hated it - I find it very depressing ...

My question: How can I lose weight with no time to exercise, & I'm too stressed to diet?! And I'm addicted to chocolate! Any experts out there?

Gill

JW83 - Your chocolate craving shows that your body is craving magnesium.

Take magnesium along with calcium.

You need AT LEAST 300mg magnesium and 800mg calcium plus the supportive vitamins that go with them, boron, zinc, selemium etc. You can take up to 600mg magnesium a day if you're still craving chocolate. This works for cravings for chocolate, nuts, salty things..... You should find after a few days that you're happy enough with your three meals a day and fruit inbetween if you need it.

You'll know when you're getting more than enough magnesium as you may get a touch of diahorrea. Just reduce your magnesium intake and keep it a 300mg a day.

Good luck.

trevor

Terry

I was touched by you post and wanted to throw in my two penny worth.

Often we marry someone who shares the same emotional inhibition as ourselves. When this happens the freeze out games happen. Each wants the other to love them deeply and unconditionally but neither knows how to love like that so stalemate occurs.

Two people will often choose each other because they both sense the same emotional unavailability in the other that they feel comfortable with. Often intelligent but not emotionally demanding. Usually one partner will refuse to share their emotions and be evasive if their partner tries to share theirs. They will set limits and withdraw if an attempt is made to test those limits. Each partner will feel it is the others fault. They will both feel unwanted.

Either they have to find other partners who can help them grow or make and effort to grow within the relationship. Without a deep love for the other person change is not likely to happen. A woman will only respond if she feels loved, needed and wanted. If the love is there then the sex will follow.

For many years I thought I knew what love was but found I had been fooling myself. I was mistaking sex for love. The hardest thing to accept was that I could be part of the problem. Fortunately I became aware in time and changed. My wife then had someone to learn from and together we turned the ship around. Hope this helps.

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