I strongly disagree. Let's take your argument to the limit. A Jehovah's Witness in Atlanta several years back killed his family to ensure they recieved the reserrection hope. Was killing his family a loving thing to do. Probably not, since it is illegal.
Shunning is a form of emotional abuse, since it is intended to hurt the shunned one. Hurting another person is NEVER loving.
I guess those that protect child molesters in the organization are showing love as well by your definition.
Well, let's take your line of reasoing to it's logical conclusion. Does a child feel hurt when their parents punish him for his/her own good in the long run? Yes -- I felt hurt when I was punished in this way when I was a kid. Does that mean my parents did not love me? Nevertheless, I believe shunning is not an appropriate, or even effective, form of showing love for someone else. But, just because someone -- under great pressure to conform! -- performs one unloving act towards you, does not mean that the totality of how they view you is unloving. Bringing the child-molestation issue, or extreme cases like murder,into this discussion is comparing apples to oranges. B.