In case all of you don't know, I'm married to a wonderful JW man, for a few years now. He was reinstated ater we were married. Anyway, I have children from a previous marriage and at times disagree with my husband on discipline, how things are explained, etc. I don't like to feel like I don't have a say in what they are taught or what kind of discipline is warranted, and often times I feel he does this without any input from me. I interrupt/corrected him during a talks with the kids, and I guess I have done this too often as he has let me know that I do. I did not really realize I do this, I thought I was giving my interpretation to the disciple, and want the children to know that Mom has an opinion as is an important person in the decision making processes.
This led to him starting to talk about Jehovah's organization, how world wide all men are taught be helpful to their wives, head of household, etc. I stated that he makes it sound as tough nobody else teaches this, I know other people who do, etc. He took offense and said he had never said that, etc. I said you imply that, that you are the only ones.......... I said from what I have heard and observed that doesn't seem to be tha case with all witnesses, they are human too and make mistakes, etc. I said it is a joint partnership, not one over another, which of course he knows I feel this way.
He then started to ask me what would happen in my church if people were turned away because of adultery, etc? The phone rang, so we never got into that. I wanted to say that that won't happen, pepple are human and make mistakes and would never be shinned or turned away.
We continued the conversation and he challenged my on my use of the word "evolved" when I was talking about an animal. How could I use this when it is an unproven theory, etc.?? He was hostile about this too. I was going to try to say that perhaps I shoul dhave used the wrod adapt, or something else. But I guess I interrupted him while trying to defend my position, and he has not spoken to me since.
This has never ever happened before, to this degree. I respect his right to believe what he wants. I guess this is where he is letting it show that he doesn't repect mine.
Is it that no JW man should let his wife make the decisions or over ride his? Is it male ego? He said I undermine his authority as far as the kids go and they are going to see division, and I said they already do, in holidays, etc. I don't know where to go from here.
And I know he still has a DA letter which he hasn't thrown away. I doubt he has forgotten about it, who could?
I'm stunned and hurt, and want to hold my ground in teaching what I feel is right to the kids, as well as them learning things from him too.