by eljefe 59 Replies latest jw friends
But I'm sure a man entrusted like this would not do the same,
I don't know about that. I knew a brother who would spend his kid's diaper money to buy lottery tickets. If you think you can trust men in a casino better than you can women, then you're probably in for another expensive lesson. Compulsive gamblers come in both blue and pink.
Pre- internet I responded to serveral personals ads. At the time I was into dating without sex. It made the dates far more interesting! I met several really interesting guys and a couple of real duds, a couple became good friends.
As a woman, I made sure at least one friend knew where I was going, who I was meeting and had that persons phone number and address, and what time I intended on returning home. I was to call them and let then know I was home, or staying out. First and second dates were always in a public place. I met them there. They did not know my address unless they snooped and cross-referenced it with my phone number. I was unlisted. It was a safety measure too many women don't use.
Good luck Jefe. Like said before, you might check out areas of your interest first so you have something in common. If you're just looking to get laid, well, there are places for that, too. Maybe Gumby will loan you his sheep......
Yeah ok, at the time I shrugged it off as we were there to raise money for charity. To be honest, I wouldn't have given the money to a man and a man wouldn't have said, "I'll look after your chips". According to a book on those born in the Chinese year of the boar (like I am), they are too trusting, presume everyone is their friend, and are ultimately disappointed.
As a woman, I made sure at least one friend knew where I was going, who I was meeting and had that persons phone number and address, and what time I intended on returning home. I was to call them and let then know I was home, or staying out. First and second dates were always in a public place. I met them there. They did not know my address unless they snooped and cross-referenced it with my phone number. I was unlisted. It was a safety measure too many women don't use
good advise Brenda...that was how I did things too.
Oh and I never gave out my phone number...I get theirs and called them, blocking my number from caller ID.
I made the mistake of giving out my number once and had the guy calling me at all hours of the night...lesson learned.
According to a book on those born in the Chinese year of the boar (like I am), they are too trusting, presume everyone is their friend, and are ultimately disappointed.
((((((((Ballistic)))))))))) I have learned many hard lessons from being too trusting. I still can be too candid with people because I think they will give me the same empathy that I will give them. I can't recall which Chinese thingy I am. Please don't get the idea that only women take advantage of men. I'm sure that lots of women on JWD, including me could tell you some experiences of being taken for rides by men. Dishonest, opportunists come in both packages. Honest and good folks do as well. Like we women say, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. I'm sure there is some similar saying for men about women.
Please don't get the idea that only women take advantage of men. I'm sure that lots of women on JWD, including me could tell you some experiences of being taken for rides by men.
Yeah - I'm sure you're right.
Please don't get the idea that only women take advantage of men. I'm sure that lots of women on JWD, including me could tell you some experiences of being taken for rides by men.Yeah - I'm sure you're right.
Ballistic, try to see the world as one of imperfect human beings and not opposing genders. I have a wonderful relationship with Andy because he sees that women are people equal to, but a little different from men. This means that women can be wonderful as men can be wonderful. It also means women can be jerks just as men can be jerks. There is no superiority of one gender over the other. It helps to look at people that way. It can be very liberating. I like a man who is comfortable with women and not intimidated by them or prejudiced against them. He is the man who I can easily speak with and pass the time.
I myself tried it as well. Like Brenda I was safe. i always let my best friend know all the details of where and who I was meeting. I also gave her a specific time to call me to be sure I was ok. I met a whole lot of losers and the ones I did find interesting were never interested in me. I finally realized I was putting up big red flags on myself. LOL I was an emotional wreck still trying to get over my ex. Thank goodness I am ok now.
I finally realized I was putting up big red flags on myself. LOL I was an emotional wreck still trying to get over my ex.
Sandy, it's very cool that you realized this. So many people don't understand that if they have intense emotions and preconceived ideas that those can put another person off. Just watch some of those horrid dating shows, like Blind Date or Elimidate. It's dark fun to watch and pick out the red flags. Of course on those shows they pick the most shallow, immature people for the participants. I'd hate to think that people in general are so petty and foolish.
Thank goodness I am ok now.
(((((Sandy)))))))
I was in a casino last night and I said to the croupier, "Im just going to the bar to get a drink", and a girl, a complete stranger said to me, "I'll look after your chips" (there was about £7000) I said ok and went to the bar. When I got back, she gave me £300 pound back and had lost the rest gambling with my money. I have to point out at this stage that is was toy money in aid of the tsunami, but even so. [I know the more I experience of women, the more cynical I am becoming]
The real questions is, would she have given you your winnings had she done well?
It sounds like these dating these dating sites are a losing matter.
