I remember one time when two elders wanted to speak with me at my home (almost like a non-official judicial committee meeting) after my first wife died. One of the elders called me if they could see me right that evening. I told him, sorry but I was doing things and it was impossible to have the meeting that evening. The elder insisted - I told him - please, you can't come over now - again he kept on insisting telling me that it was extremely important etc etc, so I finally told him it's okay. After they were over, the other elder blasted me by saying "how dare that I had the nerve to do this and that" - he was so belligerent, unloving and acted like a bully. At that moment I became angry, thought of throwing them out of my house, but I contained myself. They would have used that for my own detriment. They were trying to make me step down from being a ministerial servant at that time. They were rude, condescending, proud and unloving. It was like a bad dream - they never apologized for their behavior. I guess they were getting so used to that kind of behavior that they didn't see anything wrong with that anymore.
Another time, when we had a ministerial servants meeting where the elders were also in attendance - The presiding bully overseer scolded me in front of everybody - and what did I do? I missed a few meetings and had to travel for my business. Also he said that I didn't invite enough speakers from other congregations for the sunday talk (I had that assignment) - you see during the summer months it is always harder to find speakers as a lot of them are on vacation. I felt so uncomfortable at that meeting - it reminded me of a business meeting rather than a spiritual one - They succeeded in taking away my responsibilities eventually and I decided afterwards to move to another congregation.
Turns out later that this bully elder got disfellowshipped, as he was having an affair for the last 5 years with a wordly woman. A second elder also got d'fd as he too was fooling around with a sister in the same congregation....