Gleaning at Bethel (page 3)

Black Man

JT: I'll probably hit you up on your e-mail sometime this week.

TeeJay: A book, huh? I'll never say never.......

Michael 3000: Yeah, Pizza Night was particularly bizarre. Vultures were circling tables in full-effect on that night.

Knorr was one snotty sonofabitch wasn't he? He just litteraly wreaked of pompus stufft shirt. I used to liken him to Lee IoCocca (sp?) only with an ego. He seemed to get worse as he got older. The last time I talked to him, was at the newly completed assembly hall in the San Fernando Valley. There was a private room for vip's and he was hob-nobbin with all the elites. Several brother's asked to see him, but like the celebrity he considered himself, told them he just didn't have time. Brush you off like you were some kinda fly on his chin.

Not as bad as the snarling Judge, but a real prick in every sense of the word.

So sorry your wife was on the receiving end of his tortured whip.

Danny

NameWithheld

qwerty: I wasn't there for long, but trust me, it happened, and it was embarrasing. Like a stampede happening as soon as the 'amen' was uttered, if you weren't fast and pushy you were left out. Especially when the good stuff (steak, ice cream, etc) was served. It was an example of pure unadulterated greed - no doubt about it. Just another exmaple of the 'true love' cultivated by Jah's choosen people!

Dogpatch

hey DannyBear,
I was at that Knorr special, steam-cleaning all the chairs in preparation for him!
Knorr was even worse at Bethel.
I believe a large percentage of the men in positions of authority in the organization today model their personalities after Knorr, since they model the guys who modeled their own after Knorr, and the guys are currently still in power.

I tried modeling the Knorr-type persona for awhile at Bethel, but it was readily apparent how dysfunctional his view of being a father really was.

The Parenting of Jehovah's Witnesses versus the Parenting of Christianity

Leaders of authoritarian religions typically reflect a parental attitude towards their followers, claiming to be the proper road to God, if THEIR disciplines are followed. The way of travel is supposedly "upward," to a more mature or glorified position in life. Therefore there is usually a "master plan," or prescribed pathway, to follow to attain such heights. Most all have their requirements for being saved. Those who don’t measure up are lost, or punished, both now and in the future. Obviously, fear and guilt are automatic by-products of such an environment.

Does the use of fear and guilt, or even punishment and abandonment, have a place in human society?

One can argue it certainly has up until now, both for good and for bad. Humans find it necessary to train children up by rules and restrictions, until they are able to intelligently make their own moral decisions in life. To fail to do so in our society results in juvenile delinquency, crime and a poor quality of life for the youngsters. Is there a better way? If so, it has not yet been discovered. With God’s grace, perhaps someday parenting will take less of a toll on parents.

Religious leaders often take up where the family stops in parenting. The religion becomes a larger family, with new parents and new rules, designed to take the person to a higher form of social and spiritual maturity (whatever that might mean).

The question not often asked at this point is, What is their higher level, and is it really desirable for you and me? What guarantee is there to the new recruit that a religion’s special brand of maturity, whether viewed as the "only way" or not, is really the best solution for the individual?

Those who are searching for "the truth" are often ill-equipped to distinguish between what is healthy and what is not, particularly if they are going through an emotional time. Feelings of guilt, remorse, fear, etc. may cloud their objectivity. Balanced information may not be readily available, or even sought out by the individual. Further, poor models of parenting at home may prevent them from recognizing good vs. harmful parenting, and often they end up choosing a model that is similar to what they grew up with perhaps because it is comfortable and familiar to them.

It is a well-known fact that children and mates of alcoholics develop a codependent nature around such persons, and the bad behavior is perpetuated through silent agreement. Having an abusive mate or parent can also lead to picking a mate later in life that similarly manifests such tendencies. Why? Often it is because it is the only pattern they are familiar with, the only "family" life they have ever experienced. It is relatively comfortable for them, even more comfortable than a healthy relationship in most cases. Sad but true, and very common.

Religious Discipline

Now, carrying that principle over into the world of religions, one might expect similar patterns. For a moment we will ignore those who follow the religion of their birth, and focus on those who actually look for a religion at some point in their lives.

Persons who have been abused will usually find authoritarian, abusive father (or mother) figures to tell them what to do and to punish them when they are bad. They have become comfortable with this pattern, and are often very uncomfortable in a more wholesome environment, one which requires them to make their own personal moral and ethical decisions on a daily basis. They have never been TRUSTED to make their own decisions, and therefore do not feel WORTHY of anyone’s trust. Such persons are ripe for the authoritarian religions, often called cults.

A charming young pastor, a charismatic speaker, a loving grandfather: We are all attracted to such persons at one time or another. If they show us attention, we might consider spending more time around them. If it begins to cost us time or money or even a little of our freedom, it might seem worth it. Worth it for what? A pat on the back, a smile of approval, an understanding hug? Advice? How to get closer to God? Ah, there you see how it happens. Someone offers us something to make us grow taller, fatter, stronger, and closer to what God wants of us. "See? That person did it, we can do it too, with their help." That’s the hook.

Let’s assume that the abusive parent feels they are really doing best for their child by physically beating them once in awhile. "Does not the Bible allow for it?" they say. By the same token, we can assume that many cult leaders really feel that their method of discipline and rigidity is ALSO what is best for their followers. While the sins of the cult leader may be complex, one thing is almost always true, they do not understand a better way to raise people to maturity, or if they do, they do not believe that it works in actual practice.

When I worked at the world headquarters of Jehovah’s Witnesses (1974-1980) I saw the whole range of authoritarian attitudes at work. My own overseer, Richard Wheelock, always made it clear that "You can’t trust the brothers." "Give ‘em an inch and they’ll take a mile," was the common attitude voiced in the factory atmosphere. Most of the other factory overseers were the same, with a few exceptions. When I was appointed floor overseer in the Bible printing department, I was the same way for the first year or so, until I realized what I was doing. There was a better model of "parenting" these young men, one that I did not comprehend until I started reading the Bible anew, without the Watchtower and its parenting models. As I began to apply Bible principles in dealing with others in a non-legalistic manner, I was richly rewarded with more friends and, not unexpectedly, better production. The morale on our floor soon jumped above that of the other factory floors I knew (because the brothers felt trusted, and acted accordingly). I could leave the floor for days at a time, and they kept things running smoothly with a minimum of contact. They became adults and loved to be treated as such. Wheelock, on the other hand, jumped out of a factory window and killed himself a few years later, the result of recurrent bouts of severe depression.

Another Way

I am thankful to the New Testament writings for showing me a better way, one that does not induce anger or frustration, but a way that promotes growth and good mental health in a person. Unfortunately, the pastors of many churches do not themselves truly appreciate the principles of grace and good parenting, and so produce dysfunctional behavior in their parishioners through various forms of legalism and lack of trust. Perhaps you can copy this article and send it to those you know who may be able to benefit.

Christian Parenting In Contrast

(By Christian parenting, I am referring to God’s way of parenting his children.)

In the realm of Christian religions, there are three approaches used in advocating standards of conduct:

(1) The strict approach--a code of conduct is laid out as "necessary," and it is strict enough that only a few Christians will follow it, producing an appearance of righteousness.

(2) The merciful approach--a middle-of-the-road code of conduct is promoted that is workable (attainable) for most or all believers.

(3) The perfection approach--Jesus’ perfect standards are advocated, which are really principles to be followed from the heart rather than laws.

Some churches, and all of the cults, choose method #1; many churches choose #2.

However, not only do the first two approaches fall short of Jesus’ moral precepts, but the system designed for the few (#1) condemns the many and exalts the few; whereas in actuality, if RULES are to be followed, ALL are actually condemned because ALL will fall short of perfect obedience to those rules! System #1, therefore, provides a false sense of security. It is also substandard to the third approach.

System #2 is unbiblical as well. To water down the principles Christ gave and to replace them with a sub-standard law code is not acceptable to a New Testament approach. God will not tolerate sin, nor lesser standards; that is why Jesus had to die for our sins. He will only work within the perfect approach.

As Christians, we expect God to mold us and to perfect our conduct and our character. We cannot by ourselves mute the power of sin within us (nor can others do it for us!). Though it may seem a noble cause to try and alter our own heart’s desires, it cannot be done through living by a law code, whether it be strict or lenient.

So we drop the law code idea. We see Jesus’ lofty standards for what they are and we realize that we will never obey them perfectly, at least in this life. That’s why we are saved by grace! So we quit following rules and allow the grace of the Holy Spirit to do his work in us. We learn to become more like children as regards humility and simplicity (Matt. 18:3). Prayers are offered for the Holy Spirit to work changes within us, giving us a new heart; a pure heart. We are praying for something that cannot be accomplished through obedience to laws and rules.

Fredhall

Hey Randy,

If I can't trust my brothers, then why should I trust you?

DannyBear

Dogpatch,

I have enjoyed reading your Bethel Chronicles/stories on your website. I have a nephew who works in the legal dept, a really sharp kid, well groomed, good appearance, and if he is anything like he was as a child, very personable. I think he is one of the guys the society is sending to school. I know they send him on errands all over the place. It must be very heady for a young guy to be in that dept. vs. one of the grub jobs, cleaning toilets.

I think alot of the issue relating to conduct of the GB, officer's of the company, Co's, Do's, right on down to the elder's and ms, are exactly as you have indicated. They all have pretty piss poor 'father' figures to follow.

The org has always promoted that they do not consider individuals as important, no clergy laity class, individuals are not important, and yet they have really done the exact opposite, almost to the point of setting these 'leaders' up as objects of worship/emulated. It was true in CTR's case to this day, on every level branch or congregation.

So I feel very sorry for the youth, who buy into this ruse. They will develope into primo pricks like Ted Jar'ass. He is visible, he makes sure he's visible, and the r&f just follow right along in a straight line.

So your right it is like being parent's. Unfortunate for all of us former children of the Tower, we did not have a very good upbringing.
Iam still fighting those bad tendancies learned from 'mama' over 20yrs ago. I will probably never shed many of the bad 'genes' inherited from them.

There is one that I have pretty well dropped completel....'guilt'.
It took me along time, but its lost most of its insipid power over me.
The loss of that (guilty all the time feeling) is one reason enough to flee the cult.

Enjoyed your comments.

Danny

Black Man

movin' on up.........

Joyzabel

Willy Walker and his bongos, I haven't thought of him for years!!!!!!!

hemp lover

We visited my uncle many times at Bethel when I was a kid and one year (I think I was 8, so 1975?) a black brother named Willy showed me how to eat barbeque ribs. There's a picture of us with bbq sauce all over our faces in a family album somewhere.

Could this be THE Willy Walker?

LDH

Black Man, please email me again, I've lost your addy.

I can't help but wonder if this behavior is common in ALL Bethels or just here in the states? Qwerty says he's not familiar with this behavior.

Anyhow, I've been to plenty of meals with "the fam" (I'm thinking of Bill Murray in What About Bob? as I say that, LOL) .

And yes,it is accurate. It is amazing that they work those young men like dogs, give them twenty minutes to chow and then send them back to work. And GET AWAY with it.

You know what else is fun to watch? The Bethelites diving into the "HOPPER." heh-heh this is where all the used clothes go and the Bethelites dig through them like they're at Neiman Marcus.

LOL What a great memory.

Lisa

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