Disfellowship or disassociate? Neither one for me. And the assumption is that if you do neither, then you're stuck with the unenviable task of "fading" for some unknown length of time? I disagree with that also. So how about the fourth option that some of you have already mentioned, which is: simply do nothing (nothing other than LIVING YOUR LIFE, that is). That's exactly what I've tried to do over the last few months, and I think it's working. I'm at the point where I can go several days without thinking about my former life in the cult.
Lately the issue has come up more because of memorial season. A certain elder has tried to contact us a few times, and we've simply avoided him. You know you were in a cult when you find yourself screening your calls and even staying away from your front door on Sat & Sun. mornings. It feels silly, and even cruel. But I just don't want the confrontation.
We've even had a JW family move in two houses over from us. So now we have that as a reminder. But I don't care. I'm going to go on doing what I want because I feel I've already given enough to that organization in my lifetime.
Our primary concern has been the effect on the family, and I'm now convinced that they're currently treating us exactly as they would if we were DA'ed or DF'ed. Actually, there's one person that would probably change, but it's that person's loss. I will try to talk to them about the WTS if they're willing to listen. I've already talked openly to my parents about some of the problems with the WTS, but they haven't brought up the topic since. And that's the way I think things will basicly stay. And on the off chance that the local elders decide to mount an offensive, let them try. I refuse to participate.
