Sunny,
I worked 6 years with the S. School District, my father 21 plus years. What I could tell you about Supers and policies would not surprize you I bet. You have an employee handbook ? This is the time to whip it out.
http://www.mapnp.org/library/legal/emp_law/emp_law.htm This is another resource for you.
http://www.eeoc.gov/facts/qanda.html
http://www.dol.gov/dol/topic/discrimination
http://www.adversity.net/legalhelp.htm#xxprivate
Protect yourself! Super's are not above the law. The reason I say protect yourself, is because if they succeed in dismissing. Without you having a lawyer or some sort mediation. They can impact your future employment future. I would seriously demand a legal mediation and sort this out. Sounds like this woman is on a power trip and is allowing personal bias to come into this.
X.