jwsurvey.org blocked me from their website

by skittles 69 Replies latest members adult

  • John Redwood
    John Redwood

    @simon

    First, I appreciate your viewpoint and the manner in which you have stated quite correctly that we need to have a thick skin in this business, and that we can't moderate each other's sites. I will certainly take this as a lesson, but I am still charged with the responsibility for moderating Survey, and if you check my comments there I think you will find they are as objective and reasonable as I can be.

    Normally I would not even both with commenting on negative style posts, but since you don't know me I feel that it is an opportunity to open a door instead of slamming it shut before we even say hello. Fair enough?

    I certainly get your point regarding being damned if you do or don't. I am happy to see you leave your post up and "let the reader use discernment" - LOL So Don't take my suggestion seriously to remove the post - that's all it was a suggestion, and I don't want you to be the bad guy and be accused of censorship. Let me take the blame for that, I actually have a thicker skin than you might imagine. Perhaps some might want me or Lloyd to back away from activism, but that won't be happening anytime soon. I would not do this if I did not care for people. I was in the organization so long that I truly understand what it is like to be indoctrinated, and my experience in this area has proven helpful to many people (And I suspect that you have experienced this as well)

    We all want a happy ending, right? I will respond to any civilized comments or questions in hopes that we can all understand each other better. And thank you for what I consider to be an objective post, even if we peacefully agree to disagree on small issues

    JR

  • Simon
    Simon

    Likewise, proper dialog is always better, even if it contains criticism - we often learn more from that than praise.

    So one extra piece ...

    Perhaps some might want me or Lloyd to back away from activism, but that won't be happening anytime soon

    Don't take criticism of how you responded to one comment on the website as being that the people offering that criticism automatically want you to pack up shop, give up all "activism" and go home.

    It's kind of feels like going nuclear or at the very least, a poor debating tactic by setting up a complete straw-man claim to offer a false set of options.

    Can't both options be on the table? People be able to offer criticism (because sometimes it's valuable) without it being implied that they want you to quit any and all activity?

    If I complain about a meal, it's just that meal. I don't want the restaurant to shut-down (unless it was really bad ... like deep-fried rat).

    Organizations that do well recognize that customers who complain are some of THE most valuable they have - they are giving them feedback rather than just stopping being customers. How the organization responds to the complaints often matters more than the complaint itself (and yes, the customer isn't always right).

  • John Redwood
    John Redwood

    @simon

    Just to clarify, I was not suggesting that anyone on this post specifically wanted me or Lloyd to "step down" from activism. I am simply referring to the general tone of the comments, which would make a lesser man crack. I have seen this happen, and I am sure you have witnessed many persons who walked away from activism because of infighting among ex-jws. When you have individuals on the site calling people "buffons" and other colorful names, it shows a high degree of ignorance, particularly since those individuals are simply piling on and have no comprehension of what actually happened.

    I do appreciate your analogy to handling customers in a business setting. As a successful businessperson myself, I agree with this wholeheartedly. I would temper the analogy though by simply responding that there is a difference between criticism of the site, which we get on a periodic basis, and dealing with criticism, not so much directed at the site but at the subjects (the persons) mentioned in an article. If you check the message I sent you privately you will understand what I mean.

    And let's hope this is not a "nuclear" discussion - we already have a US President about to get his tiny hands of that button, which might put an end to every debate

  • Simon
    Simon

    Here's what I find doesn't quite add up in this whole narrative:

    In the PDF of the comments posted publicly, skittles very first post says:

    The girl was underage and it shouldn’t have mattered whether or not she “consented” because underaged girl can’t ever legally consent.

    You then claim that he was claiming exactly the opposite of this in email with 'Covert Fade'.

    But then, apparently, the mother and step-father were outraged by his comments that they contacted you / posted on the site?

    I don't follow / understand - which comments exactly? The above don't seem problematic in the least. So some others sent by email to someone else? How did they get hold of them then? Were they forwarded on ... if so, why? Were they direct quotes of paraphrasing from someone else's interpretation? Why would they be annoyed by the comment he posted above and what do you consider wrong about it?

    The story, from the parts I have, just doesn't add up to me.

    Is it possible people are talking past one another? It's possible, for instance, to say that the local elders are not responsible for what one of their members does without that meaning that you therefore claim that the person concerned didn't do those things or that no crime happened. To put it more bluntly: just because a JW abuses someone, it doesn't automatically make the WTS or the local elders guilty - that idea seems to be the gist of what the parents are objecting to.

    We should of course treat comments by the parents with sensitivity but likewise they are unlikely to be the most objective commentators on events. This is why I find amateur "journalists" (bloggers) with no training working in such an area slightly troublesome and worrying.

  • John Redwood
    John Redwood

    @simon

    You are correct - he was posting quite a bit of information online, then privately disparaging the family and stated that the girl was not raped, that the sex was consensual. I was about to post the details but it is not appropriate to do so on this public forum. You have my email address - please contact me privately.

    The reason it does not add up is that you are missing vital pieces of the story. What I can tell you right now is that I have more information than anyone on the case with the exception of the actual victim. The information includes police reports,civil case filings, detailed logs of all events, extensive letters of reference written on behalf of the victim's mother and stepfather, and documentation related to the judicial hearings held in relation to this case. I have been entrusted with all of this information by the family, so that once I am permitted to release this information in an article, I will have all of the pertinent facts. Until that time I will honor their wishes and not share this information with anyone. In fact, not even my fellow editors at Survey have this information.

    In the matter of objectivity, I actually agree with you and "skittles" on several points. One of those points being that you can't necessarily hold the JW organization responsible for every crime committed by a Jehovah's Witness. There are very specific areas where culpability applies, and if you study the Conti Case, The Padron case, the Lopez case and many similar ones, you will see that those attorneys filing court documents were under pressure to make sure they had evidence that either the crimes were committed on JW owned property, or that the organization was in some way responsible for damages due to lack of proper reporting to the authorities.

    There are other areas where I agreed with skittles from the outset, and in fact he acknowledged the changes I made to the JW Survey article once he and the family posted comments on JW Survey. I was not the writer of the article as you know, but I felt responsible to make the necessary changes right away in light of the evidence I received, primarily from the family members.

    I would like to further agree with you that problems can arise when bloggers or non-professional journalists cover stories without all of the facts. In fact I will take it one step further and say that I really have a problem with many professional journalists who publish content which is misleading or inaccurate. In fact, this is the main reason we are having this discussion. The writer of the Salt Lake City article initiated the problem with sloppy writing and terminology which was confusing, and in fact was the reason Cover Fade initially interpreted their article to mean that the perpetrator was some person of authority in the congregation (which he was not).

    Here is the exact quote from the Salt Lake article:

    The woman filed the lawsuit Wednesday in 2nd District Court, accusing the Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's Witnesses church in Roy — as well as naming the alleged perpetrator, several church leaders and the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society (the religion's headquarters located in New York) — of knowingly allowing the "unfit" instructor to rise to a position of authority without warning members of his "dangerous propensities" and past sexual transgressions.

    I have spoken to the family about this, and even they are not clear on how this journalist came to use the term "instructor" when referring to the alleged perpetrator.

    NOTE: On November 4th, skittles made the following comment on JW Survey:

    The family is grasping at straws by calling him an instructor in the lawsuit.

    You see my point? The family did not originate this term "instructor" or call him such in court documents. However skittles of course did not know this because he had little knowledge of the case for a person who immediately jumped in and wanted to correct what we quoted from the Salt Lake article.

    The article further stated:

    The purported assaults escalated from there, according to court documents, as the man three times bound the girl's wrists and ankles with duck tape, placed a sock in her mouth and covered her head with a pillowcase, leaving her alone in the backseat of his car for one to two hours each time.

    Aside from the horrendous accusations, it seems clear that no one bothered to edit this article, as you can see from the expression "duck tape" - I mean seriously - how are these people getting paid for this?

    As a result of the Salt Lake article, followed by the Survey article, skittles made his argument that some information was not correct, and I agreed with him, and we had several very civil exchanges. However, what happened was that the changes were not made quickly enough for skittles, and Covert Fade made the point that we are not going to accept the comment of a random faceless poster named skittles at face value over the Salt Lake City journalist. It was not until I actually verified the story with the family that we were able to make the changes. However by that point, skittles was engaged in a drawn out duel with Covert Fade, and what started out as pleasant became a dispute over the various facts of the case and the issue that we would not accept his word over the reporter's article.

    Clearly his comments were incendiary, as the biological mother of the victim posted the following on JW Survey on November 18th:


    In reply to Skittles.

    Skittles, you are misleading people. Be careful with your little knowledg on the case. Your attempt to minimize JW elders’ uncivilized criminal behaviors is telling. You have tried to misled the readers and discredited the report on the Salt Lake Tribune as well. You are an imposter

    Since I was able to verify 100% the identity of both the mother of the victim and the victim's stepfather, it became clear from their statements and all of the written documentation I obtained, that they were trustworthy and they were indeed who they said they were. On the other hand, we had no evidence whatsoever that "skittles" or the name he used in corresponding with Survey was actually involved in any way. In fact he admitted in an email on November 10th that:
    I'd be happy to give you the details but I don't know how I can exactly confirm that they're accurate

    In regard to your question about the comments on Lloyd's PDF, I have not looked at that PDF and had no time to compare it with the public posts on Survey. I know he did a quick scan and it's possible that comments are missing, and I do not know how far back he went in all of the posts.
    I hope I addressed your questions, however some details can't be discussed publicly, so please email me and I will try to fill in the missing pieces. At the end of the day, I felt it was necessary to limit his comments (on the rape case) following the requests and facts provided by the victim's family. I believe this was the right thing to do.
    However as you can observe, we still allowed him to comment, and he chose the latest Survey article to perpetuate his keyboard anger, and quite frankly it got to the point where he just wanted to argue for the sake of arguing. That's not healthy or beneficial for anyone, and it wasn't going anywhere.
    Fortunately this is a fairly rare occurrence (thankfully), and out of the thousands of readers and posters on the site, I can only recall one other person blocked in the past year. I'm sure you run into this yourself periodically.
    Regards,
    JR

  • Ruby456
    Ruby456

    JR

    buffoon simply means clown -

    you have seen people crack under pressure from comments such as this? the only person i have seen crack under such pressure is "poor" Lloyd Evans.

    imo the tone of comments on this thread have been mild peer pressure and these tones and comments are healthy even among activists

  • skittles
    skittles

    So JR think that it is absolutely uncalled for that they were called buffoons by a random poster in this random thread. But on their website I was called a "sh**eating d**chebag" and a "sophisticated troll." The second one by Cedars himself.

    There is a huge double standard here.

    And regarding the rape story, in my PRIVATE email with covert fade I said this, "I have made clear in my email to you and Redwood that there are some things that are facts that you have wrong and some that I personally think are wrong but I don't acknowledge those as facts. Like whether or not it was consensual. I strongly believe that it was but ultimately I can't prove that. And that is why I have only shared that point via email and not in my comments on the website "

    But I also agree that regardless whether or not she was a willing participant, it was statutory rape. I guess I personally see one as much more heinous than the other.

    The fact that you are purposely not answering any of my points shows how weak you and your staff are. But when you go on to make false statements and purposely censor comments and then go on to disparage the commenter without allowing them to make a response, that is where you become tyrannical

  • OUTLAW
    OUTLAW

    When you have individuals on the site calling people "buffons" and other colorful names, it shows a high degree of ignorance, particularly since those individuals are simply piling on and have no comprehension of what actually happened.....JR

    That`s not truthful and you know it..

    What happened was,you were called a buffoon for this comment..

    To Mr. Outlaw I would say, if you don't believe we are making great strides in activism, then you haven't been paying attention to current events. Generally speaking, those who complain or disparage the work of others are most often the ones not doing anything to further activism or help people......JR

    You were called a buffoon again,for this idiotic question..

    I noticed that you said nothing of your personal efforts to help anyone, instead you simply called us "buffoons" - is that how you feel you will help people?

    You`ve made skittle`s point,that your not a truthful person..

  • nicolaou
    nicolaou
    I noticed that you said nothing of your personal efforts to help anyone

    A lot of good people make a good deal of effort to help their loved ones and others out of the cult. That they do it quietly and without fanfare is not a shortcoming.

  • skittles
    skittles

    JR is the real troll for posting extensively on the thread I started and not once responding to my questions

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