you said on this forum nic -
that is the key I think as the religion in question is Jehovahs witnesses - a tiny minority religion.
while I have your attention can I make one small point?
the most important thing a jw and an xjw can experience is that of challenging others' opinions. You have probably heard of the experiment in which a group of students were shown a series of lines drawn on a blackboard and were asked to say which was the longest. Most of the students were told to pick the second longest to test how group pressure impacts people. the second last student was told to pick the right answer. the last student was being tested to see if he/she would go with the crowd or go with the individual who had picked the right line.
this experiment was conducted in different ways. And what was found was that it only takes one to disagree with prevailing group pressure to embolden an individual person to be more likely to question authority and leave a high control group.
I think it is important to allow people here to challenge prevailing wisdom.
I noticed on another thread that the idea of not having anyone disagree with you was seen as keeping the thread on track. I may have been wrong in my assumptions but I don't think so.