I disagree with the people who say you'll never get reinstated if you marry the other guy.
you also just admitted that you've never been to or posted on a website like this "ever." My advice? Here goes:
you have this other guy. Being in love with someone--a healthy, true love--will get you through this tough time in your life. You have each other and you share the same predicament. I know of 3 couples who got married while DF'ed and got reinstated within the year. It happens.
because you've only just begun reading "apostate" information, honey... let me explain something to you and read very carefully: prepare for your mind to be blown. You're going to discover so many things about this organization that you never knew--things they would never admit to--things they tell active JWs are "lies," but they're not lies! They're true. All of it, documented an archived online forever just waiting for curious doubters to look behind the curtain. You keep focusing on researching this cult and if you love this guy, do it now while you're both out and do it TOGETHER. Otherwise, you may miss your shot at him.
Once you you realize the corruption, deceit and evil behind JW leadership, you may not WANT to return.
and consider this: right now, you're already where many of US on this forum want to be, but we're trapped. For you, the hard part is over! You're out and you're free from their man made rules. So, if you're currently out & free, seriously, date whoever the hell you WANT to--their rules do not govern you anymore. It would be tragic to turn down the chance of having a perfect, loving soulmate simply due to social pressures from friends, family and a diabolical cult that ruins lives and feeds off of people's misery.
i hope the best for you and your DF'ed BF. Study study study about JW history, JW scandal, JW cover-ups and JW deceptions. Begin with jwfacts dot com and watch as many ex JW YouTube vids as you can. I recommend John Cedars.
you may want to educate yourself on science, critical thinking, application of reason, skepticism and atheism. Start there. Read stuff about evolution (whether you believe it or not) and try to prove it wrong. You'll learn very early that you had NO. IDEA. about what evolution actually is because the JW literature presents a strawman.
oh--and look in to "logical fallacies." Google that term, print off the list and grab any JW publication you can get your hands on and play a logical fallacy search game.
One final tip: read ex-member stories from OTHER religions. Reddit has sub forums for ex-mormons, ex-7th day, ex scientologists... watch TV shows & documentaries about people who've left a different religion and it's amazing, the similarities. All cults use the same tactics. Those people suffer the same thoughts and fears exjws do ("OMG what have I done? I'm gonna die at Armeggedon!" "Oh sure, the mormons are effed up, that's crazy, but... JWs have the truth! Right???"). On those forums, you'll see posts of letters, emails and text messages from friends, family & ranking people from their cult with the exact same guilt-tripping and manipulative tactics. ALL cults do this, young lady. Your are a victim of cult abuse and you need to hear that! Know it. Investigate it. A 19th Century New England PRINTING COMPANY is not god!!!!
please stay in touch with us and ENJOY your recent freedom. I mean it! Enjoy it.