by StinkyPantz 57 Replies latest jw friends

  • happyout

    Actually, Frenchbabyface, I DID have it happen, twice, but in opposite ways.

    I broke up with my fiance. I didn't have a reason I could put into words, I just knew something wasn't right. A few months after the breakup, one of my so called best friends said my ex had been cheating on me. He knew about the cheating, but didn't tell me because he didn't want me to get angry. This is a person I had been tight with since freakin' 6th grade for God's sake!! I told him I would never forgive him for not telling me, and for having so little faith in our friendship.

    A few years ago, I saw one of my girlfriend's man out at a club. He was with another woman. He tried to play it off, but I'm not stupid, and I know the difference between platonic friendship (which I have always had) and a date. I told my girlfriend the very next day. She wasn't angry in the least, she was glad I told her. She elected not to break up with him immediately (they were getting ready to go on a cruise, and she didn't want to ruin the trip), but they broke up soon after returning.

    Like I said, if you are my friend you will know I am not jealous, I am not interfering, I am simply providing you with information I believe you should have. I would never tell my friend to leave a relationship, that's not my place. As a matter of fact, when I was dating my husband and we were having problems, one of my girlfriends told me to leave him. I elected not to, but she remains my friend to this day. Being able to speak openly and honestly is a requirement for me, and people whose friendships require lying and subterfuge aren't worth my time.


  • frenchbabyface

    by the way ... happyout (I believe you will) and anyone else ... JUST TELL ME THE TRUTH ! in every kind of stuff THAT's WHAT I NEED ! ... thank you in advance ...

  • Frannie Banannie
    Frannie Banannie

    That list contains some really nice aspects of friendship...

    Frannie B

  • teejay

    >>>> This thread has made me grumpy because I feel as if my character was questioned. . .

    Don't worry about it, Sweetie. Your character is every bit as fine as you are. Most of us know that.

    What someone apparently had/has a difficult time understanding is that sacrificing something on your part (what *you* said) is by no means equal to a demand made by a friend (how someone MISREAD what you said) on the other hand. Friendship does lead to the outlay of cash at times, but friendship would never involve a demand. But then, that's not what you said.

    How anyone could confuse the two (a "sacrifice" as opposed to a "demand") is astonishing.

    On second thought, no it's not... considering.

  • StinkyPantz


    Thanks. . I'm not going to let it bother me.

    I do appreciate most of the comments on this thread though and that's all the really matters to me.

  • Aztec

    SP, you up for a phone call?

    I'm awake and alert for now...


  • StinkyPantz


    Honestly, I just got home and I am beat. Tomorrow perhaps?

  • smack

    yeah, PM the number, ya never never know

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