Not one visit, 8 years in a nursing home, and not one visit!

by Raymudas Martini 40 Replies latest jw friends

  • Finkelstein

    In general there is no such thing as unconditional love inside the JW cult.

    That's why the WTS has caused millions of families to break up.

    Its called in JW theology, the separating of the sheep and the goats. (the spiritually strong verse the spiritually weak)

    There is a set amount of jurisdictional acceptance within the JWS religion and that might true for others as well and its based and structured around how much you participate within the operations of the congregation and your spiritual strength as it may be. More love and attention is offered and directed to the most devoted and zealous and that decreases proportionally relatively to that person perceived spiritual stature.

    And if that person ceases to attend all together its sayonara .

  • Lynnie

    Yes I see the same thing happening with my mother, a pioneer for many many years and is now old and unable to drive and has to PAY for someone to come by during the day to take her to the store or whatever. I was told the pioneers were "too busy" and it wasn't "their responsibility" to help with her. Really? Oh and my uber elder cousin (also rich)who has his oldest daughter and son in law at the inner circle of Bethel barely have time for her and he's in charge of her estate since I'm DF's and can't be trusted. Although on occasion he thinks he can call me and order me to do stuff for her. Doesn't work anymore.

  • Lostandfound

    No ability to contribute financially and organisation forgets you, no CO checking up on elderly on his visits, no local elders sparing their precious time, death has many faces and this is one

  • Heaven

    In 2011, my Dad moved in with me for 14 months. He has dementia. He told me he didn't want me telling the people of his congregation where he was. An elder and his wife have my home phone number (um, yeah, I still have a land line) and my email. Years ago I 'unpublished' my home number (I pay for this service). So no one can get my address via my phone number.

    In 2012, I had to put my Dad in a nursing home. Once again, when I asked him if he wanted me to tell the brothers and sisters where he was, he said "No."

    Isn't that telling, folks.

  • James Mixon
    James Mixon

    Lynnie;"He's in charge of her astate since I'm DF's". The law don't care about DF's in a crazy religion.......

  • tepidpoultry

    I'm sorry Raymudas

    that your father did not receive the respect and attention that he deserved

    I think of my aunt who special pioneered for many years

    Died in a home of MS alone

    She begged me to have a certain elder visit her

    A crippled up woman, can't move

    So I asked him

    He laughed and asked why does she want ME?

    He never did visit of course,

    There's a lot of anger,

    But we have to just try to forget,

    And live our life the best we can now


  • Londo111

    I noticed this with my own grandparents. A few did come to visit, but by in large, out of sight, out of mind.

  • stan livedeath
    stan livedeath

    my old dad died a year ago. 95. he had been in a care home 3 years. all elder visits dwindled. his own granddaughter--my daughter.---never visited him--ever. she lived less than a mile away.

    i know he donated £5000 to the KH fund--which ended up sold--guess where the money went. he also donated £100 a month. i got power of attorney--and put a stop to that.

    i organised his funeral--and forgot to notify the congregation he had died.

  • Sour Grapes
    Sour Grapes

    The Witlesses will spend hours standing by their literature carts sipping on their lattes and going from door to door hoping that no one answers while the elderly from the hall need help with groceries and choirs and many of the "forgotten class" wither away in nursing homes realizing that they did grow old and will die. If the Witchtower Bable and Trick Sobriety would have new light and let the Witlesses count time doing the above, it would be a win-win for everyone. There is no deeper feeling of self-worth than helping someone who is truly in need of help.

    The false hopes and false dreams they have are consuming the only life they have. More and more are realizing that no one is getting out of here alive.

    Sour Grapes

  • ToesUp

    We have still in family members who are all struggling spiritually (hate that word), financially and have had health problems (they are getting older). We have 2 elders in our family. Neither one of them give a crap. They are there for the congregation and have time to pioneer but no time to check or care about their own families. Not even a 5 minute phone call or a simple text. The biggest bunch of HYPOCRITES we have EVER seen!

    "WHITEWASHED GRAVES FULL OF DEAD MENS BONES" is the perfect way to describe them. It's all about appearances.

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