Should the Watchtower be blamed for everything bad that's happened in my life? No. A few things maybe. I feel stupid for allowing myself to get sucked into it though, and even more stupid for staying in as long as I did once I saw how hypocritical the society is. I didn't want my marriage to break up as a result of my leaving, but now it looks like I've only delayed the inevitable.
It seems to me that many who become JW's as adults do so during a low point in their lives, and this was true in my case. The idea that all problems would be solved after armageddon appealed to me, and allowed me to put many things on the back burner. Now that I've wasted what should have been the best years of my life, I find it's probably too late to do some of the things most people do, such as raising a family. True, that was our own decision and not the societies, but that decision was based on false teachings from the society. Now I'm faced with the prospect of starting all over again. GROAN!!!
But ultimately, the decisions were made by me and I have to either live with them, or get off my butt and make some more changes.