I'm very sorry that your husband and yourself were treated in such a shabby, however predictable, fashion. Humans are going to stratify themselves into different classes based on something, aren't they? Every human seems to need to feel superior to somebody. It might be helpful if your husband could realize that those people are responding to their own feelings of personal inadequacy, and they are over-compensating and breaking The Master's Law of Love in the process. He only left two laws, and those JWs last night were blithely breaking the one that said, "...love your neighbor as yourself." Of course, they would argue that you and he arent' their neighbors, but that argument lunges at straws.
What is it that your husband wants from the JWs? Personal acceptance? That can come from somewhere else, you know. Since real religion takes place between your ears, and organized religion is merely a social repurcussion of the spiritual urge, acceptance can be found elsewhere. I have been seriouly thinking about becoming informally associated with the Episcopal Church simply and solely for its social aspects. I certainly don't think that all that sitting and standing and kneeling and rote performance of ritual, and singing, and listening to a priest rattle on has anything to do with enhancing spirituality. That, as noted, happens between my ears.
Would your husband ever consider sticking his toe into some other water? There will be some sort of class system in any organized group, but I don't think the Episcopal faith could be characterized as a scripture-twisting prophecy mill that can't get it right. And they are very liberal. You often see a conservative family sitting primly on a pew dressed to the nines, right next to more evangelically-motivated family who dress for the bowling alley, have their eyes closed, their palms upraised, and the verbal out-loud praise of Jesus upon their lips. And all are accepted. As I said, I think I'm gonna go give it a try just for its social aspects. I can be very lonely on the mountain.
There are variouis ways in which humans can react and respond to the spiritual urge. Perhaps your husband would respond favorably to something in a little less tight-assed cult.
francois