I guess no one has kids then...

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  • mommy

    Hey JI
    My mom was active in my life for about 2 months after my daughter was born. I think she thought now that I had child, I would want to save my childs life by returning to meetings. Little did she know but the love I had for my daughter is actually what helped me break the chains. I knew as a mother, the love I had for my daughter and was convinced I would never let a religion tear us apart. Thus she resorted to shunning me again, the wicked evil woman I am. I had an abusive mate, and really was alone in this world, save my daughter, I was too ashamed to tell my wordly family what was going on in my home. Somewhere I found the strength to end the relationship I was in. Unfortunatly he saw me as still his, and broke into the home one night, thus my second pregnancy.

    Before my pregnancy for my daughter I was enrolled in school, but had to decline after I found out I was pregnant. After her birth I enrolled again for the nursing program and was to start within a month, and found out I was pregnant again, yet again I had to put my education on hold. After I had my son I enrolled one last time, I figured I would either get pregnant again or actually finish school. Fortunatly I did finish, but the hardest day in my life was handing over my son on the first day of school He was 9 month old and I my daughter was 18 months. I knew that the school would steal my time from them, and it did. I slept an average of 3 hours a night, with taking care of the house, and studying, and still trying to find quality time for them, it was a real strain. I actually did get pregnant again while I was in school. I had a miscarriage, less than 12 hours after my d&c I was back at school. I never really had time to grieve over the loss of my baby, it was several months later when it finally hit me.

    I am now currently enrolled in college, I am going to try this again. The nursing program I went to was an intensive training course that lasted a year. Now I will be able to enjoy studying and take a leisurely stroll through my education. Both of my children are in Kindergarten now, and are heading for 1st grade next year. The best part of having them so close was that they both are doing things at the same time. Yes as toddlers this was a strain, but it is intersting now. If I had to do it all over I would have them this close. They are the best of friends and the worst of enemies, but they always have someone to play with.

    I almost forgot to address my daughter low birth weight. Yes she was premature, actually she had what is called IGR inuterine(sp?) growth retardation. Half of her body (her head) had developed normally, but her abdomen and lower extremities were smaller. They found a microscopic knot tied in her cord. She as receiving little nutrients throughout the pregnancy, the doctor likened it to a garden hose tied in a knot. For her even to be alive is a miracle. She really has been through alot medically, and still is not completely whole, but her spirit keeps her going. She is my miracle child, and I get much of my strength from her.
    Ok, you probably know more about me than my current hubby I hope I didn't bore you to death. Glad to see you sticking around, and would love to hear more about you in the future.

  • outnfree

    I have four children (would ALMOST say five, but my stepson is now 29 and never lived with us, so I think not. I had nothing to do with his upbringing, even though I like him alot. ): daughters 17 and 15, son, 12 and my "daughter"-ward(actually my grandniece), 11.

    My son's first smile was for me, too, Mommy, and I melted. It came on a day when my husband was out of town and I was feeling really harried and lonesome, after the girls were in bed and he & I were alone in the family room. VERY welcome, that smile was. Relieved all the burdens!

    After I had my eldest, my daughter, I thought I would never be able to love another creature as much as I did her. But I was wrong...
    The love just grows exponentially, doesn't it?

    I am in awe of anyone who says "I survived the teen years" because, as you can see, I am smack-dab in the middle of them! I will have a teenager in my house for the next 7 years! They are all practiced eye-rollers, larc. Even the 11 year old (she must've been taking lessons from the 15 year old who shares a bedroom!).

    Right now, my 15 year old, freshman daughter is about to embark on driving lessons. I took her to the local middle school parking lot and she was WAY less scary to teach than her older sister. I don't know if it's because I'm already used to getting the s**t scared out of me, or if she's really going to be a better driver than her sister.

    The 12 year old is a soccer (football) player, so that makes ME a soccer mom! (Yes, I have the minivan that goes with that image!)

    The 11 year old struggles in school (in part because of her life from 1-5) but has made enough improvement that she will attend private school next year where we hope she will get the education she will need in life.

    I am blessed to be married to the same man for almost 23 years now.

    Has anyone had experience with their teenager opting for early graduation? My 17-year old wants to do this, and cannot at her present school, so wants to transfer. My husband & I think this would be unwise... Pros and cons, anyone?


  • jezebel influence
    jezebel influence

    Thanx for replying WENDY ,
    Ive sent you an Email!

    Also loving hearing about all the kids..

  • jezebel influence
    jezebel influence

    For Wendy again ,Im not sure the Email worked..
    So if you dont get it I will try again later...sorry

  • jezebel influence
    jezebel influence

    Thought id bring this to the top ,for anyone who wants a wee brag!!!
    Jasmine is now 4yrs old and loves her wee brother to bits,i call her mum number two!He is 1yr in about three weeks and still not walking but he pushes his wee wagon around and if he catches you looking at him he raises his hand in hi 5 motion and says HEYYY!

    Cant wait for summertime as he will be racing round,so we will have heaps of fun taking them to the beach etc!

    Also this summer is important as its Jasmines last summer before shes a school girl..sob!

    Love you all...thanks for letting me brag a little!!!

  • willdabeerman

    Well, I just ran across this, although I know it is old.. I have a (just turned) 3 yr old step daughter. And YESSS she is more than a handful keep me busy from the time i get home to her bed time.. So ooh yeah, at this time I think i is just enuff for me Funny how i can love the hell out of her as much as i do and shes not even my blood...who knows what i'd do if i had my own.

  • Valis

    Piper 3 on the left and Claire 5 on the right.


    District Overbeer

  • Joyzabel

    Gads, Valis, your girls are so cute, how did they come from you???????

    just teasing ya


  • Joyzabel

    doh! double posted!

    Edited by - joy2bfree on 9 January 2003 21:19:17

  • Valis

    joy...I knew you were getting old, but you forgot you posted that and then posted it again? *LOL* One can only hope you forget any further Apostates you have the pleasure of meeting...


    District Overbeer

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