Faders Needing a Great One Liner

by Solzhenitsyn 36 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • zophar

    Wasanelder Once

    Great suggestion. Asking the question takes all the pressure off of you.

  • 2+2=5

    I like telling JWs that Anthony Morris is horrible and I can’t stand listening to him speak, and it puzzles me that so many nice JWs venerate such a disgusting person.

  • Dagney

    What has worked for me is to have some responses ready at the quick. In the beginning I wanted to protect my relationship with my elderly JW mother at any cost. I didn't want any judicial action that would cause her more grief than she already felt.

    That is no longer an issue. When someone asks "are you still in XXX?" I say, I'm not attending meetings at the moment." They usually change the subject, or tell me about a relative that did the same thing.

    I respond as positive and happy as I can at the moment and redirect the conversation to be about them, their work/family/car...anything. That always works.

    When they tell me they just got back from RC/SAD whatever, I always say "that's GREAT! How's your wife/kids/car whatever."

    And if a former friend dug a little deeper, I've said this:

    "I have no issues with elders or anybody. I do have issues with the corporation. And it's between me and Jehovah and I have taken it to him in prayer." This stopped any further discussion. They are not stupid.

  • NewYork44M

    My fade started with a move to another state - 4 congregations later and I was long forgotten. I had no need to say goodbye with a one-liner.

  • zeb

    Tell me, by whose authority do you ask these things?

    when they fumble and mumble

    'You cant tell me? then i cant tell you'.

    please keep in mind with jw once you are off the screen you are mostly forgotten; witnesses live in each others faces and as i say once gone forgotten.

  • George One Time
    George One Time

    I respond with telling how I started to doubt reading about all the killing in Jehovah's name in the Bible for dubious reasons. How Moses life was saved from a cruel Pharao killing the baby boys and how Moses did the very same thing later with the Midianites (Nu 31)

  • Amelia Ashton
    Amelia Ashton

    I found out how quickly you can be forgotten when visiting UK after being in Spain about 18 months or so.

    I went into the hall expecting to be greeted like I had seen others being greeted excitedly and happily at conventions. Most didn't remember me at all so fading in a large city has been a complete breeze.

  • Normalfulla

    I've heard a long serving now ex elder say hes "retired from the organisation"

  • Stuck in the middle37
    Stuck in the middle37

    A fellow "bro" I was in prison with back 60's moved down into my area from the state of Washington I heard he had some trouble with the organ.up there so I called him up to see how he was. After telling me how he was still coping and hanging on,he ask about me. I said I had taken a step back. That there was some things in the past few years I found puzzling and disturbing and I'd have to see how things work out. So your not saying you quit or that your staying. He didn't press the issue, I would have been more than happy to talk to him but it seem to satisfy him.

  • Della Street
    Della Street

    when people ask me what congregation I am attending, I say, "I'm not attending right now." If they press it, "I say it's complicated." and don't elaborate further. I remain silent, look away and or change the subject by asking something about them.

    It's works. Sometimes its awkward, but it works.

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