When we discuss these things we should always try to reaffirm what the other person actually believes, and discuss from there because many times we all share the same big principles. —sir 82Good point.
We can be massively defensive, Sir82.
certainly our training was to never build on an existing good in the preaching work. It was destroy the existing belief and rebuild— never remodel.
l believed fundamentally before l became JW that there is a common sense of what hurts one person likely hurts another. A careful search for the point at which the branch conversational branch divides is worth the conversation. A conversation that finds its common root can find a solution to a shared problem.
Unless we decide it’s easier to destroy the opposition. Mow it down. Assume that there is nothing that other person agrees with in the least.
Unless we really want blood
we may have to settle for persistent good faith discussion —