I'm in agreement with Matty about bisexuals being called "confused" etc. That is just plain stupid, IMO, because bisexuals are simply saying they like both...thats not confusion, LOL!
I will be honest here about myself. I haven't had sex with a woman, but I have had more than just a peck on the cheek with one or two! I think one of the main reasons I haven't had sex with a woman is that I was JW and didn't get any chance to do any experimenting. Most people experiment at University, and I didn't get to go. When I started my degree part-time I did wonder who I would meet but part time degree courses are full of middle aged house wives....LOL and exdubs like me.
I've been to the gay village in Manchester, and that was the first time in my life that I was attracted to a particular woman who I knew was gay. Nothing happened, she with with a couple of other friends (one of them maybe her partner).
(I know you'll groan and roll your eyes on this one) Have you ever watched Buffy? I guess its one of the first TV shows that had gay women who were good looking and in a long term relationship. I found myself more than interested in the whole concept of finding a young attractive woman to be with. You see, I often think to myself that if I chose a gay lifestyle I'd only come across the UGLY women who look like men. I'm not into women who look like men! and I'm a feminine woman too. I *really* don't understand why gay or bi women are like a "man" and a woman. One is butch one is feminine. To me that doesn't make any sense. If you wanna fancy women, fancy women, not women who look like men! (what the hell is the point of that? a "man" with boobs?)
I reckon that even if I wanted a nice looking female partner, I'd have no chance of finding her.
All of the above pondering about it took place before I was back with my boyfriend. I'd left the JWs and basically everything was called into question. I'm faithful to my boyfriend. I'm just not into the idea of a threesome (sorry all you men who were hoping I'd say that I was LOL!), so if I ever did sleep with a woman it would have to be just me and her - and it would have to be a person that I knew well and trusted. The thing is, that would constitute a betrayal of my boyfriend. (Its a betrayal to sleep with her when he isn't there,,,,,but OK if he is there! LOL, typical).
I often wonder if this feeling toward women is related to my life experiences with men. Perhaps wrongly, I have less trust in men than I do in women. Mostly, I think men walk away when the going gets tough. I also think they can lack empathy.
So just to make things more complicated, my gay (male) friend has asked me to go for a night out to the gay village with him again....
Sirona