Just had to reply to these words from Had Enough:
"My own beloved father had his over-40 years as an elder washed down the tubes because he too took in his df’d daughter (me) who had no where to live until I could find a job."
There is a Watchtower reference(I do not have the energy to look it up), deferring to the right of a family head to take a df'd offspring in, based on psychological, financial or other considerations that would pose a threat to that descendant's survival. I made it clear to the body of elders that I was exercising that "loophole" and no one said a word.
But, again, this type of reference, in actual practice, is merely spin. There is a time-honored elder principle: Your conscience may permit you to do something(see voting), but OUR consciences may not permit us to recommend you for special privileges.
Thus, a father who takes in a disfellowshipped son or daughter, regardless of the circumstances, is committing organizational suicide.