by Yondaime 46 Replies latest jw experiences
So last night I was talking to my sister about how I admired President Obama's speech to the U.N that happened earlier that day.
I then compared the extremism of ISIS to how much of a fanatic my JW BIL is.
At the end of the statement , my mom walked in to the kitchen. She was standing in the living room and she heard everything I said.
She called the elders that night to tell them what I said so they can counsel me.
I'm going to meet with them after the meeting on Sunday!
What DO I DO?!!!!!
(a) Just say NO to the meeting.
(b) Have a migraine.
(c) Throw up on their shoes and go home.
I am more concerned about you admiring Obama. You need some help there.
If your sister is willing to say nothing or that you didn't say anything directly wrong about JW's, then deny deny deny. "Mom misunderstood what I was talking about." Don't try to offer a different explanation, don't try to say "What I meant was..." Just say she misunderstood. I said nothing wrong."
Tell them: I am not obligated to meet with you. I did nothing to warrent your counsel. If I need your counsel I will ask for it. You've already decided to believe my mother. This looks like a witch hunt. So, no, I won't meet with you.
But as for your question..... in my experience dealing with anyone who *thinks* they have authority over you and want to manipulate you....... play dumb. Tell them as little as possible. Deny, deny like OTWO just said.
Just in a very polite manner decline the backroom session. Thank them for their concerns and reassure them, that you will search counsel in case of need.
Billy the Ex-Bethelite has great suggestions. He was more than a match for his elders, and his techniques may very well help you.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/253592/1/exJW-Psychology-101-Keeping-Your-Cool-While-Fading
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/254990/1/exJW-Psychology-102-How-to-Ask-a-Question-When-Questions-Arent-Allowed
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/255058/1/exJW-Psychology-103-Lets-Reconsider-Confidentiality
http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/256052/1/exJW-Psychology-104-One-Way-to-Play-the-Depression-Card
By the way, it is perfectly all right to promise to show up and then don't. I like wasting elder's time. They should consider getting in to a different line of work. One that pays an actual wage and offers job satisfaction.
So what did you say that was so bad? Just tell your mom to explain why its okay to hate people. She will probably stammer and say that hating people is wrong. Then you can say, " Yeah, I know. That's why I said what I did. BIL talks like he hates people and I don't agree with that."
She's just freaking out because of the 100 year thing. Just say that you are not meeting with them and stick to your guns. If you do, you will feel awesome. I'm not going to lie, you have a battle ahead. If you try to run from your fate, you may just end up running into it. Educate tor yourself and kick some ass!! You are not crazy!
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I then compared the extremism of ISIS to how much of a fanatic my JW BIL is.
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Don't meet with them! Do do give power to their extremism. Just laugh and tell them to mind their own business. That you can think your JW BIL is a fanatic if you want to.
