Terry I just want to say thank you for what you have been doing for this board and for this young man. I always enjoy reading your posts they are meaningful, heartfelt and help promote critical thinking. You have a wonderful way with words. I wish I had someone in person to be my sounding board. Waking up without someone to talk to who understands is very lonely. While this board is very helpful and theraputic for myself, I find myself missing someone to talk to in person. I can see your worry about not wanting to sway him or take advantage of the situation and the considerable thought that you have given to this matter just goes to show what a warm and genuine heart you have. No matter what this man chooses, I hope you take comfort in the gentle and kind way you have been there for him.
You made a few statements that describe feelings I've had but until now didn't realize the full extent of the impact they had.
The ability to make decisions does not come naturally when you've been under Authority for most of your life!
I have often described myself as one of the most indecisive people ever - in matters big and small. I never realized what a huge role the organization may have played in this matter. We were conditioned to turn over our thinking abilities to them. And even now that I'm mentally out, they still have left a huge impact (negative) on my emotional/mental state on things even outside the religion.
The overwhelming strangulation of imposed AUTHORITY becomes unbearable.
Once you've seen the discrepant foundation of Organizational Authority--the pill is hard to swallow.
You see, they have to SEE THE NEED TO GET OUT as survival of sanity.
These statements ring so true! When I first quit going to the meetings, it wasn't because I knew fully ttatt and had planned my exit, but it was because mentally life had become unbearable. For the sake of my sanity, I could no longer keep attending. I felt like I was losing my mind and if I didn't want to die inside then I had no choice but to leave.
I am amazed all the time at how poor my critical thinking skills were/are. I still have a long way to go in that department. I can only hope that I will have as much personal courage as you believe this young man has.
Please keep us informed on this developing story and please keep up the good work of posting topics that encourage critical thinking.