Welcome Tigersuit. I second what zed said. Don't kick yourself, just figure out your takeaways and move forward. An obvious takeaway for me was to never again take people's word for anything important, but there were a couple other lessons. I've also kept a couple lessons I was taught as a JW because I still agree with those particular principles.
But you were a part of the religion for some valid reasons, whether you converted or were born-in. It served some needs of yours until you outgrew it. And I'm guessing you met your wife there! So don't look back in anger, just look forward to the freedom you have now. I'll enjoy hearing your story later.