Man, that's awful. I've been bummed out since reading that post, talesin. I would have been friends with you The only kids I wanted nothing to do with in the congregation were the fakers who put on an act for the adults and led double lives.
My arranged marriage (attempted)
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So, their age difference is not a big thing to them. 20, 30, 40 years difference? Not a problem.
That may work in JW theory but not in practice. I have seen a handful of these may december romances turn very ugly when one party is forced into caring for the geriatric needs of the other.
One couple in particular, the mid sixty's lady is resigned to her now apostate husband 15 years younger continual cheating. She considers herself just too old to start over and is willing to just "wait on jehovah'.
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Open mind
Great writing rebel8! You really captured the "ick" factor quite well.
This thread reminded me of a 40-something, single elder in a former congregation. Looks wise, he kind of reminded me of the latest GB member, Mark Sanderson. Balding, pot-belly, pasty-white, zero level of physical fitness. If we were to stoop to the 0-10 scale, he was probably about a 3. Let's call him Homer.
He also had no problem letting people know that he was "in the market" for a JW mate.
So I'd be walking with him door-to-door and say, "So Homer, how's the wife-hunting coming along?"
Homer: Well, somebody invited me over for dinner the other night to meet the new pioneer sister who just moved into their hall.
OM: And? How'd it go?
Homer: Well, she seems nice enough. She's got a good part-time job and has been pioneering for a few years now. But you know, she's a little bit too chunky for my tastes.
OM: Whaaaaa!?!?
The woman in question was MAYBE 5 pounds heavier than a swimsuit model.
This guy must have looked in the mirror each morning and seen Brad Pitt looking back at him.
Bizarre. After many years of this behavior he finally got hitched. I've yet to see a picture of the "lucky lady".
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Apog - don't be bummed, it's long in the past! and thanks.
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I'm glad to hear that! We all have some things about our upbringing that we have to overcome, though some definitely had it worse than others.
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Thx ladies for sharing your stories! I guess I too had thought I was the only one. Not that the cult wasn't capable of this, just that I don't remember hearing stories like this.
I have nothing against mature, consenting adults in May-December relationships. I do have a problem when those adults are not mature and/or fully consenting.In my case it would have been neither. I was so socially immature because of the cult that I had no business marrying anyone, and I seem to have been the only one who knew it.
Would it suck to be some plain jane or maybe overweight sister who is in good standing or maybe even a pioneer just to get passed over
LOL. Well my problem was different. I'd had blood when I was a young child, pre-jw. "Damaged goods like a rape victim", in their words. Therefore I needed to clamp on to the first spiritual head who took pity on me, and be grateful.
The woman in question was MAYBE 5 pounds heavier than a swimsuit model.
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Very interesting reads in these posts. The pre-teen sexuality of the ladies, the post-menopause sexuality of men.
In this Post-Family western world, the WT land , the LDS are a perceived anachronism, and will try to mold you into the established shape, caregivers to the young and elderly.
If you like romantic adventures with young men, not marriage, there is the market place out there, but it is a hard sell. think Potiphar's wife and Joseph.
In our congregation are two couples with age differences in the double ratio. the sad case is the former circuit overseers couple with the infirm husband and the just around 50ish wife, that is clearly stressed,frustrated because of having given her life to an aging ailing husband and an aging ailing CULT with no natural offspring to satisfy the great urges of nature. and the other couple with two children, BIG SMILES, ongoing lives well lived spaced 40 years apart.
get a life while you can, with the right man.
right?