Hi, Jonza - So glad you came to this forum as you recognized you would get solid advice from those who have survived the jw life. Good for you!
Please read back over all the replies to your post and ask yourself this: how many of these people told me it would work?
Pretty sure the answer is "zero". So ask yourself: why?
And the answer to that is: Because we know better. We have lived through it. We wish it would work for you two but we know it just won't.
Unless she loves you more than the religion, your relationship is doomed. You and your children will suffer and you will end up regretting that you ignored all the good advice you were given here.
PLEASE, please, please...don't subject your children and any future children to this mess. You may think you can deal with the issues but you will end up hating this woman and her religion. Is that what you really want?
If you have to keep this a "secret" and blah blah blah blah blah till she can get reinstated...how much are you going to hate the religion she is trying so hard to get back to? She is willing to toss it aside to get a husband, but then she goes back? Is that what you want, to be in second place all her life?
Don't do it. Please don't do it. You have no possible concept of the misery that will ensue. Give it a break and STOP "being together" in your secret world for five hours a day. Come up for air! She is controlling you just like she's been controlled by her religion. Your head isn't clear, your thinking isn't clear. And this all seems so desperate for both of you.
The right woman for you will be one who brings PEACE to your home, not disharmony.
Please love yourself enough to give yourself and your precious children PEACE. I beg you to find that woman who brings you PEACE and LOVE.