Okay so I'm dating a born-in JW woman, she's younger than me and has no kids. I'm a Christian man whos divorced with 2 kids. We're in love and seriously want to be together. We also don't live close to each other. She's prepared to move here to be with me. She knows she'll be DF if she moves in with me (I know I'm a sinner and we've not been that wholesome, if you get what I mean) but for now has been keeping me a secret, which has been relatively easy for her to do due to the distance.
I was originally giving her religion a lot of respect as I didn't really know much about it. As I originally read why JWs believe what they do, and I can see how (but far from agree) they can incorrectly get what they do out of the Bible. But long after we fell in love she started talking abou the UN, and the world powers etc... I got a little freaked out as that's just total none-sense to me, and a dangerous thing to be claiming as 'fact'. So I started researching more about the WT, and saw the bigger picture, along with the false prophesies, mind control etc etc. So now I have concerns about this relationship, though the last thing I want is to lose her. But in anycase, as a result we have argued about religion and have come to a point where we are both reluctant to talk about it.
I've since read 6 books on this now, and more than that online and feel like I know much more about the religion but I'm trying to find a way forward. Specifically with having kids with her. If religion were not an issue I would more than happily have more kids. I have a hope that she will wake up from this mind control and I believe I do have reason to think that. I got her to admit that they at least used to be false prophets, which I guess is a big deal. I got her to agree that in all likely hood Jesus died on a cross (I'm not interested in debating that with you guys or doctrines at all here, I just want to focus on what she now believes or doesn't). She also had no idea (even after studying for 7 years and being born in) that they claim Jesus is only mediator to the 144K and that he only died for adamic sin. She knows that's not what the Bible teaches and said she's happy to teach any future kids what the Bible really teaches. So I do hope that if she moves to be with me, being DF and further away from her JW family/friends that she will wake up fully. But even after admitting all the above she still sees the WT as the only thing she knows and the best that's out there. Though she has said she will go to church with me now and then.
The comprimise we've come to with kids is this: I get to take them to 3 meetings a month to my church, and she can take them to the KH the rest of the time. Also teach them about faith not works for salvation, Jesus died on a cross, Jesus the mediator for all and He died for all our sins (and any other things I can prove to her that they're wrong about by showing what the Bible clearly says). Though she wants me to encourage them to go 'preaching' (I think I'll find that hard). But she aslo agreed to let me go through the WT magazines etc and anything that claims about end times/UN/world powers etc BS then we can teach the kids that it's just their guess and not fact at all. She also agreed, that I can give them presents on birthdays and Christmas, but she just won't be a part of it. I'm sort-of mostly happy about all that.
Something else that makes me more confortable about being with her is that even when I first met her, she disagreed with the WT that only JWs can become saved, she always said that's upto JAH to decide, not them. I liked that a lot when I first met her. She also said, even when she was 'spiritually strong' (now she claims she's not, I guess because she's about to be DF) that she never did more than 2 hours preaching a month and that she never listened to them when it came to not listening to 'bad' music or watch 'bad' TV etc so she never let them control her life really. So she says even when she gets refellowshipped she will just be like that again.
So my question is, what do you guys who have far more experience and knowledge than me think abou all this? Do you think it's a reasonable comprise? Do you think it can work? Do you think she might wake up? Do you think she may even convert? I know you can't know for sure or make promises but it'd be nice to get others peoples perspectives.