hamsterbait: I may have to take a look at that book. That said, most of the time we're not actually together anyway, so it's not like our relationship is built on sex. At it's core we are very good friends, and most of the time we're just video calling. I'm not sure she really feels guilty at all about what she's doing. She just says 'the heart wants what the heart wants, and it's nothing to do with religion'. You see, her mom essentially did the same thing, except she wasn't baptised and he had no prevous kids, but he was a Catholic. Though sadly now, he's converting. So she just sees herself taking after her mom with this, and has no guilt. Her only regret is getting baptized as it was only a few years before we met.
Frazzled: Your experience is actually what got me to sign up and post here, as I've read a few of your threads and they became even more cautious from the posts.
GrreatTeacher: I agree and I'm very concerned about that too.
I am almost tempted to say I don't want kids with her unless I'm sure she'll come out, but that's not what I want at all. She wants kids a lot, and I couldn't do that to her. I've been tempted many times to break up with her to prevent this, but I just can't let her go.