Captain Blithering,
Has anyone ever told you or your wife, or anyone you know, that they were independent thinkers? If you have a personal experience to bring out to your wife it will make it easier to bring the subject up. Believe me, I know it's difficult. Just type any of these words into the WT CD-Library, in quotations.
1) " propaganda "
2) " open mind "
3) " manipulation of information "
4) " Do others do your thinking for you "
You will find some great information. Then if you can just find a way to ask a viewpoint question, a seed could be planted. This could work, especially if you have been the victim of an ad-hominem attack. Also, if you bring out how serious real apostasy is, you can reason that we would never want to pass judgment on a fellow human. Especially when the penalty is everlasting destruction. I don't know how your wife feels about the Nu-light, but it was plainly stated at the annual meeting that it is an " idea." If we do not agree with an idea of men that could change, are we deserving of everlasting death in God's sight? Apostasy is a serious charge to level at another human. I feel bad about saying the GB are apostate. I have to remind myself that they could be, " the slave that does not understand." Really it is not my place to pass judgement on anyone.
Peace,
DD