ziddina - thanks, it's nice to have a few tricks up my sleeve to wriggle out of the NGO and mexico/malawi thing. I can just imagine his response "where did you get that information from?" - because even I didn't know about all that three months ago, and thanks to the society's 'smokescreen' the only immediate way to access the information is online via sites like this and jwfacts. Thank goodness I have such a well-informed milkman!
steve2 - thanks mate, I had a feeling you didn't mean it as an insult and you were just making your point that people can turn. Thankfully I don't consider Mrs Cedars to be one of them! However, the point is well taken that, no matter well-intentioned my friend is now, it takes very little for him to get panicked and 'push the button'.
leavingwt - widespread applause for your wise counsel, how can I do anything but use it?!