I didn't read previous posts so it might have been said already. Your wife at this point is totally programmed to follow the wts without question so it may be very difficult to pull her away. Do a research on wts history, find a topic you want to bring up and get her to explain it to you, then show her from wts publications what was taught and why and how long did the teaching last.
For example: What did the founder teach regarding 1914? Get her to think about it and explain it to you. Maybe write it down on paper what exactly JWs were teaching about 1914. How did they come up with 1914? At this point, you should have done your research on the subject and present her the reality that she's not aware of. 99% of witnesses don't know their real history and will deny fact or claim it was old light as if the old witnesses thought the point in question for a short period of time. Today they teach about 1914:
- Jesus returned invisibly
- Last days started
- Gentile times ended
- Jesus enthroned as king and began to rule from heaven
This is most likely what you wife will tell you about what wts taught prior to 1914. Ask her if they realized this after 1914 date or before, to which I would guess she'll happily tell you they proclaimed this message some 40 years prior to 1914. Get her to show you this information. When she does, it obviously will be from the newer publications where they state that Watchtower point to the end of Gentile Times some 40 years prior to 1914. With wts you have to be very careful how their message is stated as many times they don't outright lie but use deception. This may take you and her some time but then ask her to show you the other 3 point (if she brought these out) if they were also proclaimed years before 1914. How did they arrive with 1914??? Get her to explain it to you carefully. Maybe write things down so she sees you're paying attention and get her to check if what you wrote is in agreement with what she said. Then if you did you research you can present it, or(better yet) tell her you would like to do your research on the points she brought out as it sounds interesting. Break up the points she presented and have detailed answers from her publications ready for her to research and answer. For example
- Prior to 1914 WTS taught not thought that Jesus returned in 1874 and this teaching was preached until officially changed to 1914 in 1943. (show evidence for your statements by quoting only wts publications)
- Last days started in 1799 and this teaching was taught until 1920s.
- Gentile Times was the only teaching that was taught prior to 1914 based on wrong date of 606BC as a date for the destruction of Jerusalem by Babylon.
- Jesus was taught to be enthroned in 1878 and this was taught until the early 1920s.
Ask her to open her bible and read Deuteronomy 18:20-22 which says:
“‘However, the prophet who presumes to speak in my name a word that I have not commanded him to speak or who speaks in the name of other gods, that prophet must die. 21 And in case you should say in your heart: “How shall we know the word that Jehovah has not spoken?” 22 when the prophet speaks in the name of Jehovah and the word does not occur or come true, that is the word that Jehovah did not speak. With presumptuousness the prophet spoke it. You must not get frightened at him.
Ask her if it sounds like JWs were false prophets? They taught this for decade only to change their teaching later to 1914, does that sound like old light or did they revise the teaching to make it look better?
Stay on one topic and if you don't have the answers tell her you will have to do some research and get back to her because I'm sure that's what she'll do to you as well as she might say she doesn't have all the answers and needs to research.
At this point, you have to realize she's been told that she will be tested by satan and that family opposition is one example of this because Satan doesn't want her to get baptized so how you present the info is important.
Another question you can ask her will she be close with her non-JW friends as before or are they bad association and she will she spend more time with her new JW friends. Ask her what happens if she strongly doesn't agree with a teaching after she gets baptized and can she get kicked out if she's outspoken about the disagreement in question. If she gets kicked out, will her JW friends still be her friends.
Take it slow easy and don't throw too many questions at her all at once. I hope you free her from them and if you need help with specifics ask questions here. www.jwfacts.com is a good site to do your research. Just remember, she will think that she is being tested by Satan when you bring out many points and if she says something to the effect make sure you point out that you're only using watchtower publications.. Good luck