"My time belongs to me, I vacation with my husband, I choose to have a career, I am not forced to drive and SUV or a minivan ( that sports car is fine) and I can eat out whenever I like, my life is still mine.
It drives me insane when people tell me how selfish, that is because, it is only selfish if I HAD kids and felt this way. ..."
FirstLastName, when I get THAT line from people - which happens VERY rarely, by the way - I remind the person that the one underlying factor behind famines, wars, dangerous pollutants and high pollution levels, vanishing species, fished-out oceans, miserable economic conditions, illiteracy, and yes, even many death tolls from natural disasters, is OVERPOPULATION.
If they persist, I point out that anymore, with the problems facing the planet, HAVING children is more selfish than NOT having children.
That usually shuts them up...
Also, your point about not having given birth to a servant, and not being your parents' slave - very valid. Unfortunately, for many people, that IS their primary reason to have a child - I'm talking about Third-World countries where they need more babies to work in the fields, but that ALSO applies to many American farm families...!! "Pop out another field hand, Ma!!"