The Real Issues Facing former Jehovah's Witnesses

by AllTimeJeff 57 Replies latest jw friends

  • Joepublisher1

    "...being a former JW is about leaving a god, not heading to a new one. So for you theists out there, show some respect and remember that, ok?"

    I couldn't agree more. After spending decades in a religion that taught you it was the ONLY true religion, I don't need anyone telling me that another religion or belief system is REALLY the one. I understand now how religion exploits even the most sincere individual. What bothers me greatly is how god can allow phony religions to take advantage of sincere people who are/were only looking to understand the Bible and to please god.

  • designs

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  • Found Sheep
    Found Sheep

    good points! Yes, must say dealing with that all. I feel like an 18 year old let out for the first time with NO training! OOPPs made another mistake?FS

  • Quentin

    What bothers me greatly is how god can allow phony religions to take advantage of sincere people who are/were only looking to understand the Bible and to please god.........joepublisher

    It's not God, so many people have this almost unrelenting desire to have their life's validated, god, politics, science, whatever, it leaves them vulnerable to any traveling medicine show that comes to town.

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  • Band on the Run
    Band on the Run

    Excellent post. I found leaving was the easy part. It coinicded with leaving for college. My college was elite and people were extraordinarly nice. I messed myself up by feeling inferior b/c of the Witnesses and my working class family. Rather, than seek help I retreated deep into myself. My whole life turning eighteen was the signal for a wondrous life, free of many abuses. I was never more miserable and lonely. Therapy was not good. I wanted a local doctor and paid dearly rather than see the much more competent college therapists. I forced myself to go to social events and left crying.

    Over four years, I assimilated every so slowly. I shudder when I think back on all the rich resources tthat were available to me that I shunned out of fear and not knowing. Despite leaving the Witnesses and viewing them as loathsome, their crazy ideas were firmly embedded in my brain. I found very good therapists in the city. I could not go straight to law school b/c college was so wonderful but also hell. A rest was needed. I was overwhelmed. Besides, I had to teach myself percentages for the first time after college for the law boards.

    I was accepted into law school on a full scholarship and what a law school. The first day I was so terrified of a repeat of lonely college. Without knowing it, I had changed. I felt as though I belonged. People were so social. Parties everywhere. Nightly post library vents at historic coffee houses. The two schools, however, had very different ambiances. The four years made law students much more outgoing. I can't begin to tell you how great my law school experience was. Of course, birds of a feather flock together. Anyone who was not a poli sci or History major had much clout socially.

    TV and popular magazines showed the student life as one fun experience. Asking for help would have changed my agony. I was listening to NPR recently and they were discussing students similar to my experience. Books have been written, intercollegiate symposiua exist--a wealth of information and serious commitment of resources. I was so positive that I was the only contaminated one.

    I always encourage young people to ask for help at college. It is not a Norman Rockwellian experience for anyone. I feel silly but I also must embrace the person I was at that point in time. Life is glorious outside of the Witnesses but it is a very rough transition. Of course, it is definitely worth the angst and the angst I may have faced if I stayed would probably be much more worse.

  • Scott77

    "...Life is glorious outside of the Witnesses but it is a very rough transition..."

    Band on the Run

    I can relate with that too.


  • andys

    I want to thank all the help that I have gotten off of here, it took me about 6 months to come out of the fog, now that I am out of the clear, my mind is all clear I want to send my thanks to all you people on here, also the people before, now that my mind is all clear I want to put my voice out there that since I have all the watchtower totally cleared out of my mind alot of people at work tell me they see a positive difference, they tell me I have changed ina very good way, I have found my identitily who I am, I want to say to all the newbies once you get your mind all cleared of Watchtower and are on the other side, life is alot more better, even though I have been shunned by my parents, 2 brothers and sister I have been able to deal with that very well, its so nice to have a board to run to for support

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