1/Would your life implode if you lost your faith? 2/Should atheists just back off and not try to mess up your good thing, if only to keep them from wasting their time?
1/ I don't think so, it would just be different, I suppose it would change my view of many things and would take a while to get my head around (maybe it would implode for a while). But it wouldn't be the end of the world.
2/ Atheists don't bother me, sometimes I think they make good points and it makes me think...which is ALWAYS a good thing. However, I don't enjoy being told by someone that does not have a belief in God that I am wrong to have a belief in god. If they are disputing a particular belief that they believe to be flawed...ie trinity...doctrines...man made rules...even the bible itself....I appreciate this becuase my primary goal is to learn about god, not made made rules and it is sometimes difficult to discern which are which. But I am getting there.
If your faith is strong it should hold up to anything that anyone throws at you. If it isn't....well maybe you didn't really have much faith in the first place.
I thought it was interesting when I was studying with the witnessess that my study lady came out and told me one day that if she hadn't been raised a JW she probably wouldn't have become one??? She went on to tell me that she probably wouldn't go searching for god if she hadn't been raised in the truth. Then she went on to say that she didn't feel that she was particularly spiritual. Now thats where we differ...I have been searching for God my whole life. Sometimes in my life I have felt close to god and other times that I am lost and don't know where he is. I know he exists, but I am wanting to understand and know him better. I have to say that she left me speachless for a moment because I assumed that ALL JW's had a strong faith in God. I am still a bit baffled as to what she actually is trying to achieve with her life as a witness based on what she told me. Seems like she accepts it as right.....even though she doesn't believe it...To me this is a contradiction, but hey, she is 70 years old and has had plenty of time to decide what she believes or not.
I don't understand why you seem to think by helping your wife you have to remove God and faith...I don't see this as being the same as helping her to wake up to JW doctrine and control. I don't know how strong her personal faith is. But I would say that if it is, nothing you say about the WTS will affect her faith in god, just her faith in manmade religion....or maybe she might be a bit like my study lady...I dunno.
Hope some of this makes sense