Since your entire post rest on a premise i am unfamiliar with i cannot address it in detail.
I totally understand, dear Bohm, and again, peace to you!
Who is death?
Death is a spirit being. He is the one who took the lives of the firstborn in Egypt during Moses day. He is referred to as the "Destroyer/Destruction", but his name is Abaddon (in Hebrew) and Apollyon (in Greek). He is a living, breathing entity... and controlled by JAH.
What is he doing in the garden?
He wasn't in the garden; his "agent", the seraph (serpent) called "Satan" was, though. He (Death) WANTED to enter into this world but couldn't (he was restricted from doing so - he is usually "chained", actually)... unless someone "opened" the "way" for him to GET in. LOOSED him. Satan used Adham to do that. Thus, through one man, Adham, sin entered... and Death THROUGH sin. It was a "backdoor" move: he did not enter through the front "Door", Christ.
If adam gave his life to Death, could God not have asked Death nicely to give it back?
The word of my Lord is that you assume two things, here, the first being that Adham WANTED to negate the "deal" he's made. He didn't. He still believed he would have unending authority over Death. Second, that the Most Holy One of Israel didn't ask. He did... and Death refused... unless he received something in exchange... something of equal value: another similar lifeforce. Preferably another son... and heir to the kindgom. Which he eventually did... but for just a very brief moment... and only as to the vessel, not the lifeforce itself. Because, in the end, it was Death who was tricked.
If Death refused, could God not have send Death to his room?
No, because it doesn't work like that. Unlike us, when the Most Holy One of Israel makes a "law" or "agreement" or "promise"... it is kept. His yes means yes... and His no means no. Which is one of the reasons for so many warnings. One of the reasons for this is because in order for the universe to function the way it's SUPPOSED to... there has be stability... and reliability.
We humans make a treaty... and then, if it doesn't suit our likes/needs/wants... we break it. We make promises... and, if they no longer suit our likes/needs/wants... we break them. Same thing with agreements. And sometimes it's warranted; for example, when we're forgiving someone their debts/obligations. We can do that. The Most Holy One of Israel can do that... forgive a debt.
Death, however, isn't forgiving... doesn't forgive. Which is one of the reasons why he is called "evil"... or "bad." He is NOT love and has no union with love. He is the exact opposite.
So, the Most Holy One of Israel couldn't just negate an agreement ADHAM had made. DEATH had to agree to a negation... and HE refused... without receiving something in exchange. At the time, there was nothing... no one... to BE given in exchange. Adham and Eve would have had to have children... but they didn't until AFTER Adham sinned. As a result, neither child (Cain or Abel) was the equal of the lifeforce his father had given up. And even then, the one child that might have been closest in line... Abel... was killed... by his brother. Removing both of these from the equation.
Now, you might ask why it took SO long for that equal lifeforce TO come. I cannot answer that except to say that while things seem to take a long time coming here, it is not the same in the spirit realm. There, time is not limited as it is here, so the blink of an eye there... can equal centuries here, where time is measured.
Would you say the practice by JWs of shunning demonstrates a lack of forgiveness?
Absolutely, dear JO (the greatest of love and peace to you!). Christ never shunned, expelled, excommunicated, marked, or DF'd anyone. Including Judas. Nor did he tell his disciples to do so. Paul held onto that teaching from his days as a Pharisee. But it caused great division... between him and the apostles... and between the members of the Corinthian congregation. He later "repented" (2 Corinthians)... and recanted (Romans).
Of course, this long debate started as a discussion about the merits of forgiveness. It has now become a debate about Adam Eve in the Garden of Eden.
Yeah, that sometimes happens in discussions/conversations, dear Glad (peace to you, as well!). That is one of the beauties of human dialogue and conversation... and this board: discussions are not always static or limited. We are actually such versatile creatures that we can actually entertain more than one thought... and, for women... topic, issue, and conversation... at a time. Please forgive us when we do this; some of us aren't able to... ummmm... "confine" ourselves as some might think we should. It's how some of us are able to keep track of more than one kid... the house... the dog... the cat... the husband... AND a job... all at the same time. My apologies if it overflows here, as well.
since you choose to pontificate in a contrary manner, I'm guessing you just looove to listen to YOURSELF don't you?
Really? That's the best you can respond? You know who it is I listen to... the One whom you openly deny... and so can't hear... so that it is yourself and others such as the author that YOU must listen to. To your own repeated error... and those that you constantly share such melarkey with. You don't know... so you opine... or push others' opinions as truth. Didn't have to be that way, though. You COULD have shared exactly what I did... the truth. But that takes knowing the Truth. Which you don't... because he is, in your opinion, a demon.
I bid you all peace... yes, all...
A slave of Christ,