When I was on the elder body, every September the Secretary (me) would bring along to the Elders Meeting a list of the d/f'd on the records. This was up to the 90's.
When I gave the names, the P /O would give a "yes" or "no" to a person being worthy of a visit . This was based on whether they knew he was "living in sin" or not, or was believed to be still opposed, or not...If we agreed to visit, two of our number would call on that one - and usually get short shrift.
There was one though...a man who had been d/f'd for smoking when a M/Servant.. He did show interest and said he would think about it. A week or two later he came to the Hall. We shunned him of course, but tried to communicate through gestures and winks that he was welcome. Eventually I sat on his reinstatement committee and we became quite friendly . He was a great and comical guy whom I liked very much. He was then getting on, I wonder if he is still alive?
As for me ? I am "inactive" (we have re located since the time of the above) but attend some of the meetings with Sister Blues. The locals all know me but never ask to talk about anything to do with the faith. I have even offered to the elders that I would be up for a chat about it, but they never took me up on it. I guess they do not want to reach me. No doubt it is the best course. I would only stir it up if we talked.