Think About It - thanks. My son is, and I think part of this end of the rope was my mistake in the puppy and knowing I'm probably going to have to hurt him by taking it away. We'll see. We're not and never were JW's, btw. I almost joined after a two year study. Agreed to join, and I believed everything (everything that I had been taught, not everything there was to know about it, mind you). Hubby was never in, never considered it, and none of my family are in. We're just two 'worldlies' having trouble without any help at all from a cult.
Although... He was mad at me for almost joining. He throws it in my face on occasion. He doesn't give me any credit for NOT joining. Only criticism for almost joining. To be fair to him though, he didn't want me talking to them from the beginning. He's probably resentful that I didn't listen to him. The funny thing is that our marriage improved when I was talking to JW's. Because I was being the more 'submissive' partner. Doing things to please him, not arguing with him, etc.
Then I didn't join, and I got published, and he was great during that time. Great to me - he still pretty much ignored the kids and did whatever he wanted. But he was nice for a while. Then when I didn't write the sequel, and our lives didn't change (financially) the way he thought, I think maybe he just got bitter. Now he's as bad as he was a few years ago - and I told myself I could never go back to living that way again.
There's a lot of hurt and resentment and anger in him for life. I think he loves us as best as he is capable of loving anyone. But I can't be mom to my boys and also to him, all the time. He needs to step up because I'm... as I said... at the end of my rope.
And yeah, I know I need to have this conversation with him. Hashing it out here is at least getting things clear in my head.
Oh... my husband is 38 and I'm 34. I know we need family and marriage counseling - but I have to fight him just to bring it up, and I'm tired of fighting him every step. (not fighting with him; fighting him)