Here is the Letter I am thinking of sending ,give me your input

by troubled mind 43 Replies latest jw friends

  • troubled mind
    troubled mind

    Attention to the Elder body of the *******Congregation Of Jehovah’s Witnesses

    Criminal harassment is defined as "engag(ing) in intentional conduct which the actor [harasser] knows or has reason to know would cause the victim, under the circumstances, to feel frightened, threatened, oppressed, persecuted, or intimidated; and causes this reaction on the part of the victim. (M.S. § 609.749, Subd. I). Such conduct can include following or pursuing you, returning to your property without your consent, making repeated phone calls, inducing you to make calls, causing your phone to repeatedly ring, repeatedly mailing or delivering unwanted letters, objects, or gifts to you.

    I have specifically requested D. Smith to inform the Elder body to stop calling, and stop coming to my home uninvited . This morning 6/05/2010 once again my wishes were ignored . This morning at 8 am I received another phone call by J.W .

    I told J that since my inactivity with the congregation over four years ago my depression problems have been aliveated , and I am very happy now . However this repeated harassment threatens to put my personal health and emotional well being into jeopardy.

    I have been asked at least three times by J and D whether or not I want to write a letter of disassociation . This too is threatening and harassing !

    There is nothing I see in the Bible that calls for a formal letter of disassociation in my situation, or any other. I did not sign a contract with an organization at my baptism . In 1978 baptism was still a dedication to God not an organization like it is today . It seems to me that the provision of formal disassociation is a matter of convenience for the Elder body or the Society rather than serving any real religious purpose. It allows people to be pigeon-holed into nice neat little categories rather than dealing with real issues .

    My spirituality is between me and my heavenly Father . I wish to be left alone and allowed to seek that journey on my own .

    You are  hereby notified to immediately terminate any contact with me ,including phone calls ,home visits or mail .

    A copy of this letter has been filed with the ****** Police Department . I really do hope you will abide by my wishes because I really do not wish to pursue this into legal criminal matters , but I will do whatever I have to protect my well being .

  • mrsjones5

    I like it. Nice and concise.

  • tec

    I like it too. I'd be tempted to add this:

    A copy of this letter has been filed with the ****** Police Department, as per their suggestion.

    Just so they understand that the police are on board with you.


  • JeffT

    Very well worded. No polemics about the religion, just a simple declarative statement that you want to be left alone. I particularly like the comments about not having to DA yourself. You might consider adding a line that any statement about your religious affliation (or lack thereof) could also be construed as harrassment, and therefore the only thing they can announce is that you are not to be contacted.

    No threats either, although the note that the police have a copy will let them know you are serious.

  • Finally-Free

    Very good letter. The only change I would make is to remove any reference to your former depression. That is between you, your family, your doctor, and others who are close that you choose to confide in. It is none of their business. You know how JWs are. Never give them something they can twist and use against you at some later time.


  • recovering

    be very careful they will claim that this line constitutes your intent to disassociate

    My spirituality is between me and my heavenly Father . I wish to be left alone and allowed to seek that journey on my own .

  • not a captive
    not a captive

    Good letter, imo, and the suggestionsof others are very good, too.

  • Quandry

    Yes, I second recovering's thought, as I wrote on your other thread. They will interpret this as a request to disassociate, and there will be an announcement.

  • OnTheWayOut

    The letter probably will be viewed as a disassociation letter. But send it and get them out of your life. Don't let them rent any more space in your head.

  • flipper

    TROUBLED MIND- Good letter , very good. Finally Free is correct and my wife suggested about leaving out the " depression " bit as they may try to hold this against you somehow and twist what you are saying claiming you were NOT in your right mind at the beginning of your exit- and STLL aren't. But I think the letter's great ! Send it, it is very consice and very to the point. Great legal points you make in protecting you and your family. If even now the elders don't abide by it- I'd call their bluff and threaten a lawsuit. Stick to your guns. They are totally in the wrong and out of line. Good luck to you, Peace out, Mr. Flipper

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