LongHairGal - I appreciate the wake up call. Unfortunately, for my wife's sake, we've decided to try not to get disfellowshipped for now. Both sides of the family pretty much know we've given up on the WTS and the BS it's been feeding us all these years. But for appearances sake her mom has indirectly indicated that if we at the very least remain associated the relationship will continue.
I've basically told my family that if I do get disfellowshipped, and they want a relationship with me or my kids(because it is a package deal) they know where to find me. I don't need people in my life that put conditions on my love.
Up to this point they have not requested a formal meeting with me. Unfortunately, now that it is summer, I am outside with the kids a lot, especially Saturday mornings, and on several occassions they've stopped and talked to me. On one occassion, we were inside, they rang the doorbell and my daughter ran to the front window. I didn't want to tell her to hide and ignore who was there, because I think that sends a weird message to her as well. And I'm not going to alter my activities with the family and hide in my house like a coward just so I can avoid talking with them.
Undercover - I think you might be on to something. Your right, I do try and anticipate the questions they will ask me, and the responses they will give me. Maybe that's just 35 years of preparing for field service in me. Maybe its time to change strategy. Hell, that strategy didn't work in the ministry either!!