Wow ! I really enjoyed all your responses ! Since they're so many I'll respond to pg. 1 first. Lots of good reasons for exiting !
PAT 1060- I understand your slow fade. A lot of times many feel the need to do this to avoid extra heat from the elders, or in your case with your one child who still lives with you - don't want to freak him out too fast. Hang in there. It will come in time. You are being smart.
DARNKID- I understand how it rips your heart out in your kids not seeing you. I have two daughters which have done the same. I'm trying to gradually work on them- but it still hurts. Hang in there.
WHITE DOVE- I'm so sorry you and your children were abused like you were by people who you thought were your friends in the congregation. I think many of us have been there and experienced that. I'm glad you made the decision to start anew and cut your ties from the WT cult. Sounds like you and your children have made a happier life for yourselves.
DISSED- I agree exactly with what you say. It was the lack of love and injustices initially that forced me to exit the witnesses. And yes, WE are NOT the apostates - the WT society and Jehovah's Witnesses are in reality, good point.
JAMIEBOWERS- I am SO GLAD you escaped the cult and the horrible abuse you were suffering ! I'm glad you made a new life for yourself.
ALL TIME JEFF- Wow. My wife and I have read your entire story. Our hearts go out to you bro with what you had to go through and put up with. I can't even imagine how frightening it was to be attacked in Africa like you were. I am glad you oved on and have a much better and happier marriage to a new partner as well ! Sometimes we go through some hell before we truly find happiness in life. I'm happy for you.
LEFTBELOW- Wow, is all I can say. What a tragic event that family went through in the link you posted. Good gawd. And the fact that only you and your family attended the non-witness funeral- it's just another evidence of the true lack of human compassion and caring which Jehovah's Witnesses don't show . The other witnesses that didn't attend should have been ashamed. I'm proud of you that you and your wife had the courage to do the right, compassionate thing. And glad you are out of the cult.
HEARTBREAKER- I'm like you- I miss no friends hardly ever that I knew as witnesses. And you are right- a person has to do what is right for them- no matter HOW MUCH our families try to make us feel guilty. I've had older JW siblings try to make me feel guilty about leaving the witnesses, as well as my older JW daughters. But like you said, you and your children are happy now, I understand that happiness, so am I.
MAMOCHAN 13- A lot of times when we are treated unjustly it opens our eyes to the unfairness and we awaken to the scam being pulled on people by the WT society. That happened to me like it did to you. Sounds like your family also really tried playing the guilt card on you as well. And it is true we can go through periods of depression- but in time we feel a lot more free and in control of our lives, don't we ? And THAT is a good thing.
CASPER- Hey, nice to hear from you sis ! I'm glad you got your freedom as well. It is true like you say that if the elders chase after us right after we exit - we may more likely go back. But good for you and me they didn't and we have enjoyed our freedom outside the cult.
LANCLINK- So lack of human caring pushed you over the edge as well when seeing the lack of support shown on your mom's behalf. It seems to happen a lot to those of us who saw the injustices and then we acted on seeing those injustices by leaving. Glad you're out.
HAPPY GUY- Welcome to the board friend. You are among nice people who have been through similar things as yourself. It sounds like you experienced a lot of changes over the years and a lack of love shown to you inside the witness organization. I'm glad you got out and have moved on.
AUSSIE OZ- Welcome to the board ! I totally understand what you went through. My story and yours are somewhat similar. I too have an ex-wife ( fanatic witness ) who is STILL a major pain in the gluteous maximus, so I get it. I'm glad you are happy now and have a new wife and a new life. That's great ! I too used to find more encouragement from people who weren't in positions in the congregation. They weren't so full of themselves. Glad you moved on.
YELLOW- That was interesting what the non-witness husband told you whose wife was a JW " these people are controlling your life, they are telling you what to say, think, and do, they are taking away your ability to think and reason for yourself. " That was AWESOME ! And coming from a guy who could just SEE it ! Never even read books on cult mind control. Interesting. I'm so glad you got out and have your freedom ! Good for you