Of the paedos I know about - probably a couple of dozen in all in the j/witnesses - many were completely screwed up but many seem perfectly "normal" whatever that is.
But I think it is a matter of degree. Of reaction - not just of the victim but of their family. Also the general background too. - let me illustrate.
One victim I know is a good friend and was abused by an older teenager when he was a boy. His problems have in my non-professional opinion been magnified by his wierdo family (who were not involved as perpetrators in the sexual abuse) who number drug taking, poor parenting skills, poor spouse-choosing and suicide among his parents/siblings. I/e - he was obviously vulnerable before he was abused.
He holds down a good job and is a really nice guy but I can tell his personal decision making skills have been effected by his abuse and upbringing and experiences as a jw - which he still is.
Another - a family member who was a jw and abused by a non-jw Uncle but whose family were supportive, stopped the abuse and shopped the perp. told me she felt supported and believed and has put the abuse behind her - she seems a happily married young woman who is also a jw.
Others I know were the victims of an evil paedo MS/elder that hit the national news here in the UK in 2007, but because some of their abuse was unknown to them at the time (too young - as in under age 2 - to recollect) but known to them later as adults then they have to deal with the shock of what happened to them as babies but it was handleable for them without them going off the rails.
I have come across an amateur psychologist in one congo who IMO gained quite a following among the vulnerable who insists that her "patients" "have to face their perpetrator" - "have" to do this and that and "cannot" move on without doing things her way. I cannot help but think that she is working out her own issues through the needy.
Health professionals in general I find helpful and detached - working with what the victim feels they can do - as they should - in this area.
Perhaps Lady Lee is over-sensitive? - God! I would be more so after all that has happened to her and I applaud her for the help she gives others on this forum. No way does any victim have to be made to feel they cannot move on if Lady Lee is an example of what can be achieved from bad circumstances as a child.
NLHC - As a nurse in this area then my hat goes off to you too! But I suggest that by the time you get to see the victims in your care then they are the worse effected ones and for every one of them there are others who have managed to cope with their lives with less health care assistance and become productive citizens.
All JW's lurking? Go to the police; school; social workers or whatever. DO NOT LET ELDERS BULLY OR THREATEN YOU INTO REMAINING SILENT.