Dissed your account was hard for me to read .
However it is good to know someone that had been an Elder , and participated in this type of JC actually does have a heart and feels the way you do .
Your story hits close to home . I know how it feels to be that girl . At fifteen I had no idea myself why I did something so out of character . Inside I was scared ,confused and broken.... yet all the Elders on the JC could see was an obstinate teenager refusing to break down and cry .They had no clue of the abuse I had suffered with in silence . A trained counselor may have understood the acting out scenario and would have answered the cry for help . But NO , in Jehovah's mighty house of pure worship our great shepards were really just window washer, factory working , carpenter ,carpet layers posing as wannabe Godly Overseers of their fellow man .
I was told they didn't think I was remorseful ,and if i had been baptised they would have definitly disfellowshipped me . What I went through in that JC had an internal impact on me. As an adult I look back and think it is atrocious that grown men would make a child feel dirty ,unlovable and damaged . I was told that in the future any witness boy I dated would have to be told( by myself) that I was no longer a virgin.That meant a good JW boy would possibly reject me after knowing that . They also never knew that I went home and attempted suicide . Thank goodness I wasn't successful .
I really believe what doesn't kill you makes you stronger .
I don't blame them ,but I do think it is extremely dangerous for the Watchtower society to have this type of judical arraingement . These are uneducated men dealing with people that sometimes have very real mental ,and emotional problems. They are in no possible way capable in handling .