I want to apologize to all of you for making such a serious post so late in the evening and also for doing it when I had no allowed coments left to answer your thoughts.
Just a little more to help clarify.
This happened in the mid 1990's. Shortly after, about a year and half later, my wife and I left the JW's, moved out of the area, and of course lost contact with that congregation.
She never came back to any of the meetings while I was still there.
Having had a first-hand experience how deep the scars of molestation can be, I would worry that a card or letter could re-open some very deep wounds in her. She may be very happy now with life on the outside of the WTS. I wouldn't want to bring back to her so much hurtful memories.
As AK-Jeff said, I shared this as a warning to others, what this org. does to people. We and others who have done hurtful things are just a product of their teachings.
I'm hoping as some stated, that this was good for her, leaving the JW's. She was NEVER going to get the help she really needed if she stayed, only ostrasizism.
What she needed from us, was 'unconditional love', that's all. And we were not permitted to give it.
Someday, maybe I will run into her. And maybe she will let me talk to her. And maybe she will let me hold and hug her. Something we should have done 14 years ago.